Are You In an Abusive Relationship?

Are You In an Abusive Relationship? There are many levels of abuse. When people think of abusive relationships they often associate them with some kind of physical abuse.

Are You In an Abusive Relationship?

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” – Eleanor Roosevelt


There are many levels of abuse. When people think of abusive relationships they often associate them with some kind of physical abuse. Although physical abuse is one of the worst forms of an abusive relationship, abuse does not have to by physical, it comes in many disguises.

The different types of abusive relationships range from emotional, verbal, mental, sexual and physical or any combination of these. If you find yourself in an abusive relationship and you are trying to figure a way to get out, you need to proceed very carefully.

Some of the warning signs are:

* They blame you for everything, especially their anger or jealousy

* They are violent or they threaten you.

* They control where you go, who you see and when.

* They isolate you from all or most activities and friends.

* They have bouts of uncontrollable emotional outbreaks.

* They demean you, humiliate you, insult you, or embarrass you.

* They make you feel insignificant and scared.

* They force you to do things sexually.

* They make you feel terrible about yourself.

* You cause all the problems and they cause none of them.

* And on and on.

If you recognise any of these signs in your relationship you will do one of two things. You will either make excuses or rationalise these behaviours or, you will gather your wits about yourself and do whatever it takes to protect yourself and get out.

Many victims of abuse are already dealing with low self-esteem and the abuser preys on this weakness to further belittle the victim so they won’t have the courage or strength to go anywhere.

It’s vital that you acknowledge that you are being abused before you can take the necessary steps to help yourself. If you are trying to convince yourself that “it doesn’t happen that often” or “he really didn’t mean it,” you are in for a rude awakening not to mention a lifetime of heartache and pain.

Just because the abuse may be cyclical doesn’t mean that you aren’t being abused and most times it will only escalate in the future to something you may not be able to handle.

A critical factor in protecting yourself is: the sooner you leave an abuser the better off you will be, because the longer you hang in there the more difficult and more dangerous the situation can become.

If you are wondering if you are in an abusive relationship all of the signs are there staring you in the face, all you have to do is open your eyes and begin to tell yourself the truth.

If you choose to ignore the reality of the situation you are in be prepared to pay the consequences of living a life of misery. You will be a prisoner in this relationship.

It pains me to even touch upon this next segment but, if you are in an abusive relationship and you are exposing children to this kind of a life, you too are an abuser!

It is your responsibility to protect and nurture your children. By exposing them to this kind of upbringing is not only detrimental to their well being, it totally skews their perception of how to have a healthy, loving relationship.

As they grow up you will be teaching them exactly how to be an abuser or how to be abused!

So, even if you are in the mental trap of believing you deserve this kind of behaviour; your children certainly don’t!

Begin today and decide whether you are going to remain a victim in an abusive relationship or take the steps to free yourself to live the kind of life you really desire.

You have the power within you to do the thing you think you can’t.

Side note: If you are in a precarious situation and need to secretly devise a plan to leave. Call a Domestic Abuse Helpline.


Susan Russo – About the Author:

Are you in an abusive relationship? Susan Russo has written one of the top breakup/divorce books on the market. Her direct approach is a wake up call for anyone who feels paralysed in finding a way out. How would you like to move beyond the pain and start to feel like a human again?

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Hi! I think every great idea or post starts with a warm welcome, but this time its a little different for me. Because when it come a little to close for comfort to your own heart it is a little different don’t you think?.. Its a case of “been there and done that”and now you have to watch it happen right in front of your eyes to close ones that you love dearly, and you can’t do a dam thing about it.

Only they can when they are ready!

If not…Then life has its way of forcing you back on to the right path one way or another or sometimes even out altogether” meaning not making it in this life at all!..

Emotionally abusive people are

Conditioned to make us feel that they are superior and that we don’t deserve them. They make us feel like we deserve to be treated the way we are and that we are lucky to be in a relationship with them. They are masters at manipulating the way we feel.

Emotionally abusive BEHAVIOUR

Is when something is said, implied, or done to intentionally hurt someone’s feelings on a consistent basis over and over again over an extended period of time. The day-to-day bickering, teasing, insulting or other negative behaviours do happen in ordinary relationships. However, a pattern of emotionally hurtful behaviour can eventually evolve into an emotionally abusive relationship. 

You may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if your partner makes you feel like you’re not good enough, calls you names or puts you down all the time, threatens or intimidates you, or you fear your partner leaving you.

If you are in an abusive relationship, recognise that you cannot change your partner and it is best to seek help and leave the relationship as soon as possible “you know now rather than later”.

Beware of

Abusive personalities who try to isolate you from family members and friends and dominate your life almost or completely.

These control freaks

Are smooth talkers. They are convincing and persuasive Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde’s. They represent themselves one way publicly but behind closed doors ~they transform!!

If you manage to escape them,

They will beg and plead to get you back. They may even try to convince you that they will change or that they are sorry. It is a lie. They will never really change. It is simply a ploy to get you back in their icy grip.

being abused does make it much more likely that one or more psychological or medical illnesses will occur!!

look Life is just too short

Do not allow yourself to be abused mentally, emotionally, financially or physically to this point. Please these people are dangerous. The longer you stay with them, the harder it is to get away.

If they threaten to injure you…believe them. Run. Do not look back. Do not waste good, valuable, irreplaceable time trying to change them.

Use that energy to change yourself and put yourself in a different situation. Create an escape plan to get away…and GO! Cut off all communication and work on yourself for a while. Strengthen all aspects of your life. And if you have children PLEASE! do i need to say any more except click that link you just past!! ☝

Create some new relationships where you are loved, valued and treated with respect.

If you begin to notice the signs of an emotionally abusive relationship, whether it’s you or someone you care about, seek professional help. Just because the relationship isn’t violent yet, doesn’t mean it won’t escalate and you should get a clear understanding of the situation from someone trained to help everyone stay safe.

You deserve a better life!! Create it!

Have a good week Wishing you health, peace and empowerment to always try your best.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻💙

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