So often when strong emotions are involved
We create stories in our heads of what we feel is happening and why, and then convince ourselves it’s the truth and not just our perception of what the situation really is.
This can create unsettling thoughts, feelings, and reactions that can lead to further distress and issues that don’t need to be. It is valuable in these moments to ask yourself; “
Is there something I may not be seeing?
Information I may be missing?
What else is possible?
What else could cause that person to act this way?
The other day I was visiting a friend when her neighbor came outside.
She smiled and said hello. The neighbor gave a slight nod and as quickly as she could, went back into her house. My friend, shocked by the reaction of the neighbor she considered a friend, immediately started trying to sort why her friend was so cold and distant. She started talking about all the times she helped her and was there for her and she treats her like this… she obviously takes her for granted, she’s obviously only nice when she needs something, apparently they were never really friends and she was a fool for being so kind and generous.
She decided that she wasn’t going to be as kind as she had been previously. She did not deserve to be treated that way and she was hurt.
Listening to my friend, I asked her if she could think of anything else that would make her friend behave that way? I asked if there were ever times that “she really didn’t want to be around people”, even people she cared for? I didn’t know the real reason this woman responded that way but, I could see my friends hurt increasing the more she tried to figure it out!
In the end, it turned out that her neighbor just found out her sister was diagnosed with cancer.
You really need to ask yourself “often”, Am I interpreting this accurately or, am I projecting how I feel onto what is actually taking place? because most often than not this is the case and can save a lot of heartache for you and who is involved please take care of your thoughts.
As always Wishing you health, peace, equality, and empowerment.
Xxx J.W 🙏💙