Does a soul-mate really exist?

Does a soul-mate really exist? 

As we move through life, we come across certain qualities in people that we are naturally attracted to. It could be something to do with how they look and carry themselves, perhaps it is their sense of humor or intelligence, it could be how caring and understanding they are, or maybe we fall for some of their unique talents and skills. At the same time, life subjects us to people whose qualities do not make us feel very good – through interaction with these people, we realize traits and behaviours in people that do not agree with us.


The desirable and undesirable qualities we observe around us cause us to seek people who match the qualities we adore, and move away from people whose qualities we not not appreciate. Each time we encounter people that are a match for what we want, there is an automatic asking that happens within us to have that person in our experience. Indeed, there are many people out there who could perfectly match the qualities you seek in your ideal partner. If you do meet such an ideal person, it is quite likely that you would feel great to be around the person. You could perhaps call such a person your soul mate.


The term “soul-mate” does not necessarily imply that there is only one person in the whole world that would match your preferences. Also, a soul-mate does not necessarily imply there is some mystical relationship that  you hold with this person for multiple life times. Rather, the term implies that this is a person around whom you are more likely to be aligned with your own soul. In a sense, each person we connect with deeply is a soul mate. The key thing in a relationship is that you be aligned with you. It is your alignment with yourself that makes all your relationships beautiful, and thus seeking a person with whom you are naturally aligned with yourself works wonders for your relationship.


How do I find my soul mate/partner?

Before you find a partner that is ideal for you, by law of attraction, you need to be a vibrational match for the experience you are seeking with your partner. This means you need to be clear about what you want from your relationship, and make sure that you are not resisting the experience with your vibrational misalignment  in any way.


Ways people normally get into vibrational misalignment with the partner they seek:

  • Focusing on present circumstances that are not ideal
  • Often times people who are actively seeking life partners feel frustrated and lonely – they are inherently focused on the absence of the partner that they desire in their life. By law of attraction, this focus on lack keep a person from being aligned with that they want. This misalignment keeps pushing the experience they seek away from them.

  • Focusing on past relationships that did not work: Some people constantly focus on past relationships that did not work out as they wanted. However when the focus is on what did not work, it is hard to be vibrationally aligned with what you do want. Focusing on the past situations that did not work is likely to bring you unsatisfying relationships that are not a match for what you want.
  • Feeling envious of people who  hold  the relationships you seek: People actively seeking relationships at times come across couples that seem to enjoy a perfect relationship with each other. When they meet such a couple, they compare their own life situation to the couple and get envious of the couple. This envy keeps them from being vibrationally misaligned with the partner that they seek, thus bringing them further situations where they experience envy, but no fulfillment of having the relationship they seek.


Here are ways you can get vibrationally aligned with your future partner:

  • Note down the qualities of people who you adore:
  • Whenever you come across people that you do like, do note down that this is something that you would like to have in your partner. This is putting out a clear request to the universe as to what you seek. The more clear you are, the better it works.

  • When you encounter couples you like, sincerely appreciate them: When you encounter couples that you adore, appreciate the way they take care of each other. Sincerely praise them from all your heart. When you appreciate something, you are saying to the universe “More of this in my life, please”
  • Get into vibrational alignment with yourself: Reach for a good feeling place within yourself. Being in alignment means being true to your own nature – which is being in love, appreciation, gratitude, and joy. Remember, no partner can make up for what is missing within you. You need to be compete within yourself to start with, so that your relationships also become naturally beautiful.


Think about the qualities of your future partner and the kind of relationship you will have with that person. If you feel pure positive energy flowing within you, and there is no attention to the fact that the person is currently missing in your life,  it is an indication that you are getting vibrationally aligned with what you desire in your future partner. By law of attraction, when there is no resistance, your partner could be very well on his or her way to meet you. 

How many times have you been stuck in life?

How many times have you been stuck in life? Maybe you’re stuck right now. Whether you feel boxed in by love, money, career, health, or finding your purpose in life, it’s easy for our human selves to become paralyzed. This is especially true when we sense or see that change is coming our way. You want to change, you need to change, you may have even prayed for change to come your way, but once it does you’re like a deer caught in the headlights of an oncoming semi. Do you stay put and potentially smashed to smithereens? Do you run back into the woods? Do you race to the other side?

Staying where you are isn’t a good idea since you won’t get anywhere. Running back to where you came from won’t allow you to grow in any way, shape or form. But…running to the other side? That’s when the fear sets in. What’s over there? What scary things are waiting to harm you? What if you risk it all and the other side is a million times worse than what you already have? This is what paralyzes us. We’d rather deal with the devil we know than the devil we don’t.

You’re Always Changing

I talk a lot about change since this is what we need yet what we fear. Change is difficult, though necessary. Like the saying goes, “Keep doing what you’re doing and you’ll keep getting what you’ve got.” I don’t know about you, but I’d always like my life to get better and better. I’m sure you do too!

If you weren’t meant to change then you’d be completely satisfied with your life just as it is. Are you satisfied? No? Then guess what? It’s time to change!

Here are some words of wisdom from the Brady Bunch song Time to Change: “When it’s time to change, then its time to change. Don’t fight the tide, come along for the ride, don’t you see? When it’s time to change, you’ve got to rearrange who you are into what you’re gonna be. Day by day, it’s hard to see the changes you’ve been through. A little bit of living, a little bit of growing all adds up to you.”

You’ll never be the person you were a year ago, a decade ago, and so on. We should always seek to change our lives in big and little ways. Hey, just one small yet positive change can add up to enormous changes over the course of a year!

Take Action Today

Choose an area of your life that needs the most work. Where are you paralyzed at this point in time? Where are you in a coma, unable to move? Is it your relationship, your job, your finances, your weight? Since you’ve been stuck in this rut for so long there’s no way you’re going to change over night, but don’t let that stop you. I fully believe that when you’re stuck it’s because your aura energy has become like cement and you need to get it moving again.

What small things can you do each day that will add up to big changes and loads of new aura energy? Let’s take a look at some tiny changes that will add up over time.

Looking for love – If you’ve been alone for a while and can’t seem to meet “the one” then take a look at your current soulmate-finding-methods. Obviously it hasn’t worked up to this point. A couple of small things you could do is to join a class at your community college, revamp your look, make a list of the 10 things you need in a relationship (clarification can help clear your aura), join a gym or club, volunteer, take your dog to the dog park, go out with friends at least once a week. Gosh, the list is nearly endless when it comes to changing your energy field around so you can attract Mr. or Ms.Right! But, this is a start.

Choose one and make it a habit then choose another. Soon, you won’t recognize the old you and will have a new life and hopefully a new and wonderful soulmate by your side!

Weight loss – This is always difficult for people, even for me. For those who were born with the“fat gene,” have health issues, are very sensitive, are psychic or intuitive, or just fallen into bad habits, the weight can pile on faster than you can blink. Small changes you can make is to drink a glass of water before each meal, snack on veggies or fruit when you’re hungry between meals, take a walk around the block after each meal or at least once a day, find a fun exercise class you’d enjoy and will help get you out of the house. Again, these small things can add up over time.

Career – Who doesn’t want a better job? Most people are constantly seeking a better career hoping to find their niche in life. What did you want to do when you were a kid? Do you still want to do it now? What are you naturally drawn to? What are you interested in? If you have the skills already, make a deal with yourself that you’ll fill out three job applications every day until you get the job of your dreams. Or, fill out five applications on each of your days off. If you don’t have the skills yet then take some classes until you’ve earned your degree. Not sure if you’d love what you think you’re interested in? Try some free classes online such as those offered by, Online Education Database, or Cosmopolitan University. This way you can get in your education and see if you truly want to pursue the field you’ve picked. Studies show that 85% of all college graduates dislike the major they’ve chosen. That’s a lot of wasted time and money!

I know this was a long post and I don’t like going on for too long, but it’s important for you to realize that you don’t have to remain paralyzed with fear or confusion. You simply need to move one foot forward and begin the journey.