The truth is we outgrow those who don’t appreciate us.
Those who are okay with our absence.
Those who allow the distance between us and them to grow.
We outgrow those who make us feel like we’re replaceable.
The truth is we outgrow those who aren’t genuine with us.
Those who say things they don’t mean.
Those who talk the talk but can’t walk the walk when we need them beside us.
Those who only like a certain side of us but don’t want to accept all other sides.
Those who don’t care about our wants and needs because they’re too busy focusing on their own.
We outgrow those who make us feel like we’re not worth their time or effort.
Those who are capable of giving so much more but choose to be stingy with us.
Those who put us last on their list of properties.
We outgrow those who are lazy with us.
Those who take two steps backward every time we move one step forward.
The truth is we reach a point where we know who we are, what we want and what we deserve and we’re not willing to go back to selling ourselves short again.
We’re not willing to repeat the same vicious cycle of handing out our hearts to those who don’t know how to catch them.
The truth is we reach a point where our self-love trumps any other love.
We choose ourselves even when people don’t choose us.
The truth is we outgrow those who show us that they’re not invested.
That they don’t want to try.
We outgrow those who treat us like a pit stop until they find what they’re looking for.
We outgrow those who don’t make us feel like they’re glad they found us.
We outgrow those who don’t value us the way we want to be valued.
The truth is we’re capable of giving someone we love the world but all we need is the reassurance that they won’t abuse it, that our hearts are secure with them, that they won’t turn into another lie or another mistake.
The truth is we outgrow those who don’t know how to love us and we save our love for those who fall as hard as we do and catch us if we fall faster.
We outgrow those who tell us everything we need to hear but show us nothing.
We outgrow those who don’t love us because it took us years to learn how to love ourselves and we’re not ready to ruin that by being with people who make us question who we are or if we’re worthy of their love.
The truth is we outgrow those who aren’t afraid of losing us because they’ll never truly understand who we are and what kind of love we’re seeking.
They’ll never truly see us the way we want to be seen.
I sincerely hope that you are with or around people who truly love you and value you for who you are.
With all my love, wishing you health, peace, safety and empowerment please stay safe Joanne Wellington. 🙏💙
While I normally write around the topics of obesity, being fat, self acceptance or self love, what I know to be most true is that spirituality is behind all these issues. If you want to make any kind of permanent change, you’ve got to get to the source, and that is spirituality.
Some folks think that spirituality has to happen only on solemn occasions or only in a location that has been set aside for “things spiritual.” I don’t happen to agree with that concept. I think that every time and every place is spiritual.
We first have to define spirituality. Webster’s 1828 edition of the dictionary is the most spiritual format. He defines spirituality there as the essence distinct from matter; immateriality. That seems fairly simple to me. Do you see life as a spiritual experience, distinct from matter, immaterial? I’ll just bet a dollar to a donut that some of you do not. Huzzah for those of you who do.
I think that the “I” of you is the spiritual part – the soul part – the mental part. I know that if I died and you saw me laid out on a slab, all my physical parts would be there, but the part that animates me, would be missing. That would mean that without my spirit self and with two ears, I would not be able to hear. The same would be true of all the other parts. Without my spiritual self present, none of the other parts could perform their function. I wouldn’t be seeing, feeling, touching, tasting, thinking, etc.
And what all that means is this: the spiritual part is the real part. The spiritual part of each one of us is our spirituality.
I’d like to take this one step further. If I am a spiritual self with a body, is this earth experience spiritual or physical? Well, it seems to me that if my spiritual self, and your spiritual self is the real part of self, then this world would have to be spiritual also so that the real self could function, could ambulate, could unfold.
In order to gain enlightenment, I believe you have to reason your way to the position that Life is Mental. I could also say Life is Spiritual. I view Mental and Spiritual as the same. I believe spirituality is our very nature.
Our world today is so much about gratification. We go about satisfying our needs and wants in an almost ravenous fashion. I know, I know, I’m an oldster and you may think my ideas are archaic. I’d like to offer the slant that perhaps after dozens of years of experience, I might just have unfolded a truth or two and am now sharing those truths with you. We may lose out on what is truly happening in our lives if we only focus on the job, the car, the relationships, or the clothing.
In a spiritual experience, the unfolding that goes on is silent and invisible. Only the good can see its reality. I hope you are good enough to see it. When you elevate yourself to a purely mental plane, you can see that the unfoldment of your faculties and your virtues is what has been happening silently and invisibly behind the scenes of your going to school, or dating, or functioning inside a family, or purchasing that car, or anything you could name.
I think I’ve set the stage substantially enough to get back to my first idea, which was the raw ingredients of spirituality. As a spiritual individual in a spiritual universe, everything is the raw ingredients. And to live consciously in this environment, you simply need to ask yourself some key questions:
– What can I learn from this experience that will augment my spirituality?
– What have I been thinking (a most spiritual action) that has caused this to happen in my experience?
– Question how you can use what has happened as a means of stepping up higher in your spiritual life?
At some point, if you continue to work consciously to gain all the good you can from each of your experiences, you will be propelled into a functioning spirituality that is rich, rare, easy, convenient, normal and natural. You will exude the aroma of goodness. You will manifest all the money you want and need. You will experience perfect health. You will ensure your own happiness.
Many of you know that I am an advocate for self-acceptance for folks who struggle with their bodily image. My wish for you is that you discover sooner than later that your nature is spiritual. I hope you will learn how it functions so that you can enjoy its fruits as quickly as possible.
Pat Matson, the Wise Weight Woman, uses spiritual principles to help women overcome their fixation with body image. From her education, her experiences, the lessons Life has taught her, and her deep-seated sense of spirituality, Pat’s passion is to help women learn self love. For more tips to help you achieve self-acceptance, get her free report, You Are Good and Perfect Right Now and I Can Prove It! at http://www.theworldofwithin.com