Let us dive right into these hacks to help counter unfair negative self-judgment.

1. Discover the Noxious Self-Judgment

For a doctor to treat a condition, the first step is to identify it. Similarly, the first step when trying to fight the unfair negative self-judgment is discovering those negative thoughts. So take some time and notice the areas where you tend to judge yourself harshly.

2.Render the negative self-talk as neutral.

The second step is to classify the thoughts as neutral. This relates closely to mindfulness practices where you focus on the experience rather than the automatic emotion that arises.

The goal is to encourage a review of the situation objectively and consider all possible interpretations.

By focusing on neutral thoughts you encourage problem solving rather than self-judgement.

You learn to see the reality of the situation, not how you wish things could be or how the negative thoughts are colouring the experience.

3.Avoid Ruminating on Painful Self-Reflection.

Self-reflection involves looking at your past choices and the experiences you had. Research shows that self-reflection plays a central role in self-development, however ruminating on negative self-reflection is a terrible trap when trying to fight negative self-talk.

Unfortunately, most people fall into this trap of negative reflection effortlessly.

To escape this trap you can consider guidance and counseling, join a support group, use affirmations or practice reframing the painful reflections, what else could be true? Is there another way to interpret the situation? Yes there always is!

4.Learn to transform self-doubt into self-acceptance.

Self-doubt and fear undercut confidence. You can transform your self-doubt into self-acceptance by celebrating your accomplishments, identifying your strengths and how you might apply them to this situation, embrace what makes you unique, practice self-compassion and recognize that you are a work in progress, learning and growing through life.

See mistakes as lessons and opportunities to grow and improve.

5. Pay attention to your patterns.

It is important you examine your habits, beliefs and patterns so you can better understand when this self-criticism is likely to occur. This allows you to come up with a plan to combat it before it begins.

Wishing you all… the eyes that see the beauty in change and for bettering yourselve’s!

Have a good day Wishing you health, peace and empowerment.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻💙

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You Are A Spiritual Being With A Body.

While I normally write around the topics of obesity, being fat, self acceptance or self love, what I know to be most true is that spirituality is behind all these issues. If you want to make any kind of permanent change, you’ve got to get to the source, and that is spirituality.

Some folks think that spirituality has to happen only on solemn occasions or only in a location that has been set aside for “things spiritual.” I don’t happen to agree with that concept. I think that every time and every place is spiritual.

We first have to define spirituality. Webster’s 1828 edition of the dictionary is the most spiritual format. He defines spirituality there as the essence distinct from matter; immateriality. That seems fairly simple to me. Do you see life as a spiritual experience, distinct from matter, immaterial? I’ll just bet a dollar to a donut that some of you do not. Huzzah for those of you who do.

I think that the “I” of you is the spiritual part – the soul part – the mental part. I know that if I died and you saw me laid out on a slab, all my physical parts would be there, but the part that animates me, would be missing. That would mean that without my spirit self and with two ears, I would not be able to hear. The same would be true of all the other parts. Without my spiritual self present, none of the other parts could perform their function. I wouldn’t be seeing, feeling, touching, tasting, thinking, etc.

And what all that means is this: the spiritual part is the real part. The spiritual part of each one of us is our spirituality.

I’d like to take this one step further. If I am a spiritual self with a body, is this earth experience spiritual or physical? Well, it seems to me that if my spiritual self, and your spiritual self is the real part of self, then this world would have to be spiritual also so that the real self could function, could ambulate, could unfold.

In order to gain enlightenment, I believe you have to reason your way to the position that Life is Mental. I could also say Life is Spiritual. I view Mental and Spiritual as the same. I believe spirituality is our very nature.

Our world today is so much about gratification. We go about satisfying our needs and wants in an almost ravenous fashion. I know, I know, I’m an oldster and you may think my ideas are archaic. I’d like to offer the slant that perhaps after dozens of years of experience, I might just have unfolded a truth or two and am now sharing those truths with you. We may lose out on what is truly happening in our lives if we only focus on the job, the car, the relationships, or the clothing.

In a spiritual experience, the unfolding that goes on is silent and invisible. Only the good can see its reality. I hope you are good enough to see it. When you elevate yourself to a purely mental plane, you can see that the unfoldment of your faculties and your virtues is what has been happening silently and invisibly behind the scenes of your going to school, or dating, or functioning inside a family, or purchasing that car, or anything you could name.

I think I’ve set the stage substantially enough to get back to my first idea, which was the raw ingredients of spirituality. As a spiritual individual in a spiritual universe, everything is the raw ingredients. And to live consciously in this environment, you simply need to ask yourself some key questions:

– What can I learn from this experience that will augment my spirituality?

– What have I been thinking (a most spiritual action) that has caused this to happen in my experience?

– Question how you can use what has happened as a means of stepping up higher in your spiritual life?

At some point, if you continue to work consciously to gain all the good you can from each of your experiences, you will be propelled into a functioning spirituality that is rich, rare, easy, convenient, normal and natural. You will exude the aroma of goodness. You will manifest all the money you want and need. You will experience perfect health. You will ensure your own happiness.

Many of you know that I am an advocate for self-acceptance for folks who struggle with their bodily image. My wish for you is that you discover sooner than later that your nature is spiritual. I hope you will learn how it functions so that you can enjoy its fruits as quickly as possible.

Pat MatsonPat MatsonAbout the Author:  

Pat Matson, the Wise Weight Woman, uses spiritual principles to help women overcome their fixation with body image. From her education, her experiences, the lessons Life has taught her, and her deep-seated sense of spirituality, Pat’s passion is to help women learn self love. For more tips to help you achieve self-acceptance, get her free report, You Are Good and Perfect Right Now and I Can Prove It! at http://www.theworldofwithin.com