Spiritual Vampires

Have you ever noticed after being around someone that you feel totally emotionally and physically drained?  Have you ever wondered what in the world happened?  The answer is you were with a Spiritual Vampire.

Mystical-HandsA Spiritual Vampire is not like vampires in stories and movies that drain your blood; they drain your energy.  These attacks are very real and happen on a daily basis.  Most of us go through life not realizing that we are being drained of our spiritual and physical energy.

Spiritual vampirism is real and flourishing more than ever in today’s world.  I use the term spiritual vampire because they are tapping into your spirit.  Because they are consumers of energy rather than blood, their own inadequate energy causes them to tap into an unsuspecting person (host) energy system.  The spiritual vampire feels a rush and exhilaration after tapping into the energy source whereas the victim feels mentally depleted and even physically drained.  Constant attack can cause the energy system to break down and even cause physical illness.

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Is Your Soul Broken?

A broken soul is related to how you feel about yourself, your truest, deepest  and most honest beliefs; your philosophy about life; your original ideas and  sincerest thoughts, feelings, emotions and sense of what is right and wrong.  Your soul is who you are when no one is looking; where no one else can see. Your  outside persona includes your physical body, spoken and written words, habits,  actions and behaviors.

How can a person break their soul?

broken-heartEvery time you lie to yourself, go against your own sense of fairness,  compassion and integrity; fail to follow your dreams and utilize your gifts and  talents, hurt someone you love consciously or unconsciously you detach the  spiritual bond between your body and your soul. When you believe in one thing  and you act and behave in an opposite manner, you become an empty vessel, a  shell, a person without substance. Your physical body is alive, but it is hollow  and vacant because it lacks integrity and meaning. Many of today’s young  celebrities such as Lindsey Lohan, Paris Hilton, Brittany Spears, Nicole Richie  and even the late Anna Nicole Smith may have broken souls. These young, wealthy,  physically beautiful women have the outside appearance of prosperity, but their  actions and behaviors do not exemplify inner peace.

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Life is a gift to be used every day

life-is-a-giftLife is a gift to be used every day,
Not to be smothered and hidden away;
It isn’t a thing to be stored in the chest
Where you gather your keepsakes and treasure your best;
It isn’t a joy to be sipped now and then
…And promptly put back in a dark place again.

Life is a gift that the humblest may boast of
And one that the humblest may well make the most of.
Get out and live it each hour of the day,
Wear it and use it as much as you may;
Don’t keep it in niches and corners and grooves,
You’ll find that in service its beauty improves.

~ Edgar Guest ~

Everything Happens for a Reason

Certain events happen in our lives that completely change our outlook and  consequently the choices we make. Be it  ending a relationship, leaving a job, moving away, losing a loved one, winning  the lottery, finding your soul mate, starting a  family after many years of waiting, overcoming a fatal diagnosis, etc.  This list could go on and on. One may say it is your destiny or karma.

happens4areasonIt’s obvious that there is significance in every event of our lives, from the  most joyful and empowering to the inexplicable or seemingly unjust. I am a true  believer in the phrase “for every door that closes, four more open.”   I have personally experienced it in my life on many occasions. So often, good  things come out of bad or sad situations.  Growth occurs and lessons  learned benefit others and open their eyes to a world of possibilities.

The search for meaning is perhaps the most definitive aspect of our humanness.  Everyone longs to find or make meaning of their lives and particularly the  difficulties of their lives.

Friends or loved ones may come into your  life for a purpose. This may be to teach you to love, learn to be compassionate,  guide you along a difficult path that you have taken, or to pass on their  knowledge to you. This reminds me of the book “Tuesdays with Morrie” by Mitch  Albom.  It’s a very enlightening story about a teacher who teaches his  student many valuable lessons that he will use throughout his life.

It  is important to remember, despite your circumstances, that life is short and  make every day count.  Appreciate the good times and how fortunate you are  for your irreplaceable experiences. All of your challenges and obstacles have  been opportunities to realize your potential, strengths and to put meaning into  your life.

When you are able to turn around a negative situation and  make the outcome positive, you should feel like you have accomplished the most  wonderful, glorious task.  I have  attached several positive quotes that I  find quite inspiring:

1. We are not human beings on a  spiritual journey. We are spiritual beings on a human journey.
Stephen Covey

2. Unselfish and noble actions are the most radiant pages in the biography of  souls.
David Thomas

3. Each time someone stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of  others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of  hope.
Robert F. Kennedy

4. If you only look at what is, you might never attain what could be.

5. I say to you today, my friends, that in spite of the difficulties and  frustrations of the moment, I still have a dream.
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.,  twentieth-century American civil rights leader

6. No act of kindness, no matter how small is ever wasted.
Aesop, Greek fabulist

7. If your ship doesn’t come in, swim out to it.
Jonathan  Winters

8. No fate is worse than a life without a love.
Mexican  Proverb

9. The secret of health for both mind  and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the

future, or anticipate troubles but to live in the present moment wisely and  earnestly.

10. Never live in the past but always learn from it.

Sherise  Lambert –    About the Author:

At TarotWiz.com, we analyze and explore a wide variety of Spiritual Topics to  investigate the truths of the Psychic Phenomenon. I specialize in using Tarot  Cards to best communicate with spiritual energies. This assists me to interpret  and provide guidance to others on their personal endeavors. I have been  providing private readings professionally for over 9 years now. Thank you for  reading our articles. We look forward to sharing our vast knowledge with you,  and hope to peak your interest.

Emotional Healing Examined

“How can we eliminate the deepest source of all unsatisfactory  experience? Only by cultivating certain qualities within our mindstream. Unless  we possess high spiritual qualifications, there is no doubt that events life  throws upon us will give rise to frustration, emotional turmoil, and other  distorted states of consciousness. These imperfect states of mind in turn give  rise to imperfect activities, and the seeds of suffering are ever planted in a  steady flow. On the other hand, when the mind can dwell in wisdom that knows the  ultimate mode of being, one is able to destroy the deepest root of distortion,  negative karma, and sorrow.” – From The Path To Enlightenment by His Holiness  the Dalai Lama

emotional healingWhat are these spiritual qualifications that His Holiness the Dalai  Lama refers to? This article will focus on emotional healing as this is the  starting point for revealing these spiritual qualifications. So let’s take a  close look at what it means to heal emotionally.

What is emotional healing? It is a painful process that leads to  peace, happiness and self-knowledge. Self-knowledge leads to liberation. It is  painful, because only painful emotions need to be healed. True happiness does  not need releasing! But true happiness remains un-experienced as long as there  is an escape from pain. It is the healing of buried pain that allows happiness  and joy to start to make a true entrance into our lives. This is because only  through self-acceptance can we really move forward in our lives.

The word pain is used here to cover the whole gamut of emotions,  negative thinking and blockages, including sadness, grief, loneliness, hurt,  fear, anger, guilt, judgment, betrayal, hatred, jealousy, envy and so on.

Emotional pain can be described as frozen feelings, stored in our body and  memory,  that lead to suffering. The suffering we experience may or may not  be openly acknowledged to ourselves or not. When we suffer due to some negative  emotion, if this is not acknowledged, the emotion gets lodged in us and remains  there and thus the ‘see3ds of suffering’ are planted. Suffering is  self-generated. No pain can be given to us from the outside. It is not the event but the thoughts we project  onto ourselves and others about the event that create suffering.

At some level we obviously enjoy our suffering. It’s obvious because  otherwise we wouldn’t be this way. After all, don’t most of us consider  ourselves to be knowledgeable, clever, in control and aware? But despite all  these attributes people constantly find themselves facing the same patterns, the  same scenarios and the same problems time and time again.  It’s like we  lock ourselves into the prison of our own suffering, throw away the key and then  complain when we ‘can’t’ open the door; yet the key is in our own pocket all  along. You might say that this is a rather harsh view, and it perhaps seems so  on the surface. The point is that it’s not about eradicating suffering,  for this is part of life, but of acknowledging it for what it is.  Calling a spade a spade. And not lawnmower.

In order to understand why individuals are responsible for their own  suffering let’s enquire more deeply into the subject.

The majority of us have emotions stemming from our past, mostly with their  origins in childhood. Given the society we live in, these emotions are difficult  for us to express. We learn from a young age to keep them hidden inside us,  since everyone else is doing the same. We watch others: our parents, siblings,  other family members, friends as well as people in general. We notice that they  suppress their emotions and try to always appear in control. Seeing our closest  loved ones withholding their emotions from us – as well as thereby withholding  their expressions of love – may even lead to deep issues of co-dependency. These  patterns do not shift easily as one get older, rather become more and more  entrenched. Wisdom is not an automatic given of ageing! Or maybe as a child we  did show our emotions but got hurt in the process, so we decided at a  subconscious level to hide our feelings, for fear of being hurt again.   This is all very understandable and an aspect of the human condition as it is at  present. But this is not the road to joy and peace. For pain can’t be eradicated  by the suppression of it. And happiness can’t be attained through pretense (the  mind projecting a self-image of ‘I am happy.’)

John Pierrakos, MD, one of the first psychiatrists to bridge medicine with  spirituality, said, “Negative emotion will emerge in devious ways when it is  denied recognition.” Thus, if we wish to live a true, fulfilled life,  suppression is not an option. Moreover, John Pierrakos also said, “If we  close off negative feelings, we stop our creative process.” Thus the  suppression of emotions leads to dull lives, lacking in vitality and free  expression; and moreover, keeps us starved of real love, given and received.

Over time, we come to believe our cover-ups and to buy into our own story of  self-control believing we’re ‘fine’. Our emotional life becomes more and more  hidden. Sometimes, when we do feel real feeling – maybe when we watch a film  that moves us, or feel touched by someone’s act of kindness or due to a painful  experience in our lives – we may allow real emotion to surface for a short  while, but we are mostly still unable to fully express it. The foot is quickly  back on the break pedal. Our habitual suppression kicks in automatically. We  have trained ourselves well!  And thus, as we go through life, with all the  stresses and demands upon us, we may sometimes feel anguished and confused, but we are inept at expressing what really lies  within us. As we lose connection with our own feeling center, we may even be  unaware of what our true feelings are, since denial becomes the new reality  during this suppression process. But denial is a painful game we play with  ourselves, and if we are honest with ourselves, we can sense this dichotomy in  us, a fragmentation, an inner conflict. We may have a niggling sense that we  haven’t turned out to be the quite the person we thought we would be, or that  life has somehow been harder than expected or that the quality of happiness we  hoped for ourselves hasn’t manifested.

Eckhart Tolle, in the Power of Now, says: “The best indicator of your  level of consciousness is how you deal with life’s challenges when they come.  Through those challenges, an already unconscious person tends to become more  deeply unconscious. You can use a challenge to awaken you, or you can allow it  to pull you into even deeper sleep. The dream of ordinary unconsciousness then  turns into a nightmare.”

This nightmare is one that most of us believe to be normal life. But real  life is not this. If we open our eyes we will see the vast dichotomy between the  quality of our inner experience and what we think or prefer to believe  is our experience. This game that we  constantly play with ourselves – a game that takes a serious toll eventually – is called ego. The ego – or personality – has a lot invested in our delusional  patterns and keeping us this way.

If we can allow ourselves to become aware of this inner confusion and sense  of dissatisfaction, then we have a chance to heal. If we remain unconscious to  the world of emotions, life will continue on an unconscious path, a veritable  battle to keep at bay what needs to come to the fore in order for us to become  more whole. If we are truly honest with ourselves, we know that in our daily  lives there are many instances of conflict or some negative emotion. But due to  our inability to assimilate such emotions, we shy away from admitting this. The  disease of the human condition to deny what is so and believe what we want to  believe, lies at the heart of our own self-generated suffering.  But the  energy expended in keeping emotions at an arm’s length may as well be used to  deal with these emotions because one day we’ll make that choice anyway. Finally we may say ‘enough is enough, I need  to change’. In the end, whether now, in ten years, at the point of death, or  beyond, our heart will feel the call to finally soften. But why wait? Why  accumulate more ‘stuff’? Why deny? There is much healing to be done on this  planet. It creaks heavily with the pain and suffering that its people are  holding on to everyday.

If, individually, we are willing to allow our perspective to shift with  regard to our beliefs about ourselves and take a step back from our fears, then  we are half-way there. What we then have is a transformational opportunity that  the release of emotions presents. In fact without it, growth – emotional, mental  and spiritual – is impossible. When there’s an elephant in the middle of the  room, there’s an elephant in the middle of the room!

It is often the case that emotional work requires a catalyst because it is  not easy to look at ourselves in an honest way in the normal course of events  due to the walls we place around ourselves, especially as we go on hiding  ourselves from ourselves. But finally, there comes a point when the game’s up.  So at a certain point in our life, a trigger may present itself that will take  us out of our comfort zone. The trigger may be many and varied – loss of some  kind, bereavement, mounting stress, illness, redundancy, addictive patterns  becoming worse, a sudden change in our lives, or simply a weariness or low-lying  depression. The pain that we feel at these times is a message from our heart  asking us to shift our thinking and beliefs. We ignore this message to our  detriment. The breeze of truth is knocking on the door. This truly is a  blessing!

But better than waiting for such a catalyst we can also feed our own natural  curiosity and with intent can become more conscious.

So what is ‘the process’ for emotional healing?

It is quite simply to feel the pain. To sink into it. For  women, it’s a bit like labour pains when they tell you to just let the pain  come. This is the key in the pocket. Also, the pain is felt in the body, our  faithful mirror, and we can now look at where exactly it is in the body. Perhaps  it is in the chest area, or maybe the belly. Our body can show us much more  about ourselves if we listen to it and it doesn’t lie. For example, cancer  patients who have ridden themselves of cancer have, in the process of healing,  usually had to look within themselves at the negative emotions they have been  holding onto, and release them.

It is often beneficial if the origin of the painful memories can be  remembered but this is not essential. Even if you can’t remember the exact  circumstances or conditions at the time of the pain being created inside you,  the emotion itself is still stored and this can be felt. Energy never  disappears, especially where there is much emotional charge.

Where does the anguish or anger come from? What are the beliefs you hold  about yourself concerning this situation? Usually at the base of pain is a  closely-guarded belief about ourselves, something we do not care to admit to  easily. A feeling of unworthiness, not being good enough or some negative  self-belief. Stating this belief in one sentence is often a good way of  pin-pointing it. When we find the limiting belief, we will usually feel deep  emotion arise, and the tears need to be allowed as they arise. Fear not! Tears  and suffering are finite.

Whatever the circumstances, we ultimately created our own pain alone, and we  must deal with it alone. Whether someone else is present when we go through this  is our choice – and it can certainly be very beneficial eg a therapist, holistic  practitioner or trusted friend – but no one can feel the pain for us and or take  responsibility for it, other than us. This work is done alone ultimately.  However there are many tools and techniques that can help us with this work, eg  Hypnotherapy, Counselling, Core Energetics, EFT, Spiritual Healing and much  more.

For men, it is often harder to allow themselves to admit to and feel deep  pain, and to weep. But this is a huge release. Feeling the pain is necessary if  healing is to occur, regardless of whether you’re a man or woman. Ultimately the  gender divide is immaterial. It is time for men to allow balance between the  male and female energies within them. Just because you’re a man, it doesn’t mean  you’re not sensitive. Sensitivity is the birthright of both genders. Have you  seen how sensitive babies are, both girls and boys? It’s just adults who have  formed walls around their heart. Now the heart is gasping for air.

Healing ourselves is an allowing of whatever memories and thoughts arise  without resistance. It’s the resistance to what is arising that turns pain into  suffering. Resisting anything in life causes some level of suffering.   We’ve heard the expression, ‘what you resist persists.’ So there is simply no  deeper way to heal than to allow pain to surface whenever it shows up. But be  careful not to resist the resistance! Even this must be allowed.

When we are real with ourselves, there is a great release and freeing up that  takes place. This is because we are no longer the same person anymore. We are  still who we always were, but now, without the burden of that pain. J  Krishnamurti said, “Pain itself destroys pain. Suffering itself frees man  from suffering.” This is because in feeling our pain purely,  without resistance, it is released and is no more pain, but rather freedom. It’s  the freedom of being liberated into the full-feeling, authentic human beings  that we really are.

The act of self-healing is an act of self-love. And love truly is the  transformative power. Self-love is the starting point. How can we love another  when we have little idea how to love ourselves? How can we love ourselves when  we deny ourselves due to feelings of shame, insecurity or guilt? Loving oneself  is like nurturing a brand new baby. It’s a nice analogy. As a loving parent  would you want your baby to suppress its needs and suffer silently or would you  want your baby to express its needs and have these met? Uncannily, we may see  that it is the nakedness of love that really terrifies us. Love terrifies us  much more than fear.  We are not used to love in its tenderness. But there  is ultimately no other option. We are here to learn the lesson of love.

The understanding and empathy that come from being more gentle with ourselves  enables us to be gentler towards others. In learning to love ourselves, we learn  what it means to forgive ourselves. Forgiveness is deeply healing. It allows a  softening in the place where we were stuck and hardened.

Once we do such release work, the sensation or experience we may feel is that  a fog has lifted from in front of our eyes, yet only now do we know this fog was  ever there. A sense of surprise that the problem was a problem in the first  place. Our eyes see as if for the first time. We lighten up. Phew! A heavy  weight lifts. We begin to let go of our addiction to pain and suffering, for it  is that: an addiction. It is what we are used to. We may finally see that  shocking events only exist to shock us into awakening to the truth of life. And  what is the truth exactly? It is that all our emotions and pain are not real. If  they were we could not shed them, or heal them. For what is real does not  require shedding, it simply is. The truth is that we are complete and whole as  we are, and this real Self requires no healing. All the events and situations  that arise that challenge us are for the purpose of unveiling the real Self,  where we finally find peace and rest.

The reason that the release of hidden pain provides such relief is that we  feel a rare moment of existing in the Now, of being present to ourselves. This  is a profound experience, for it is only in being present to ‘what is’ that we  can truly experience ourselves as real.

Pain cannot exist except in our minds, our closely guarded memories, and the  beliefs we hold about ourselves and others. These are simply a protection  mechanism for fears that do not exist in reality. Ultimately all pain and  suffering are an illusion – hard as this may be for the mind to accept. How we  know fear doesn’t exist in reality is because in those beautiful, alive moments  when we are wholly present to what is, we feel freedom and lightness. There is  no fear then.

And what does life look like without undue suffering? David Spero, a great  spiritual teacher based in California, says, “The more profoundly we go into  our emotional states, going deep into the fabric of our emotional life (that  which is true for us) and release that which has been put there through some  form of abuse or some form of betrayal – working through that you begin to feel  naturally what you feel in an unhurt state.” Fundamentally, we are all  innately happy and peaceful.

Sri Ramana Maharshi (1879 – 1950), the Indian sage who attained enlightenment  at the age of 16, said: “Happiness is your nature. It is not wrong to desire  it. What is wrong is seeking it outside when it is inside.”

To unveil this state of happiness we must first look at its distortions. We  can only discover it by going into and through the level of guilt and negativity  we carry inside. This allows the moment to be experienced unresisted. Then  sorrow is transcended and our own innate joyful nature allowed to surface. And  in being true to our real Self, we experience deep satisfaction. Finally, we are  home.

Reena  Gagneja – Counselor –    About the Author:

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Reena Gagneja is an internet marketer and runs the Spiritual Truth Blog,  where you will find the Truth behind the scenes – vital information for  these changing times. She is a Spiritual Counsellor, Soul Plan Reader and Amega  Global Business Associate.

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