Sometimes shit happens, in order to make room for shifts to happen!

Sometime when shit happens, it is a blessing in disguise.

If we were to look at every adversity as if it held a blessing for us to seek and find… we may be a lot less overwhelmed by the circumstances and excited for the growth.

(Treat it like a treasure hunt! 😁)


It is our attitude or perception at the beginning of an issue that has the greatest impact on the outcome.
Mindset and perception are the most powerful tools for success, and we all have equal access!

Have a good day Wishing you health, peace and empowerment.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻💙

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Ask yourself this, Am I interpreting this accurately!

So often when strong emotions are involved

We create stories in our heads of what we feel is happening and why, and then convince ourselves it’s the truth and not just our perception of what the situation really is.

This can create unsettling thoughts, feelings, and reactions that can lead to further distress and issues that don’t need to be. It is valuable in these moments to ask yourself; “

Am I interpreting this correctly?

Is there something I may not be seeing?

Information I may be missing?

What else is possible?

What else could cause that person to act this way?

The other day I was visiting a friend when her neighbor came outside.

She smiled and said hello. The neighbor gave a slight nod and as quickly as she could, went back into her house. My friend, shocked by the reaction of the neighbor she considered a friend, immediately started trying to sort why her friend was so cold and distant. She started talking about all the times she helped her and was there for her and she treats her like this… she obviously takes her for granted, she’s obviously only nice when she needs something, apparently they were never really friends and she was a fool for being so kind and generous.

She decided that she wasn’t going to be as kind as she had been previously. She did not deserve to be treated that way and she was hurt.

Listening to my friend, I asked her if she could think of anything else that would make her friend behave that way? I asked if there were ever times that “she really didn’t want to be around people”, even people she cared for? I didn’t know the real reason this woman responded that way but, I could see my friends hurt increasing the more she tried to figure it out!

In the end, it turned out that her neighbor just found out her sister was diagnosed with cancer.

You really need to ask yourself “often”, Am I interpreting this accurately or, am I projecting how I feel onto what is actually taking place? because most often than not this is the case and can save a lot of heartache for you and who is involved please take care of your thoughts.

As always Wishing you health, peace, equality, and empowerment.
Xxx J.W 🙏💙

Responsibility and Blame

What is the difference between responsibility and blame? The most basic answer to that question is judgment; when you blame you judge. According to Merriam Webster, responsibility is defined as the quality or state of being responsible as a: moral, legal, or mental accountability. Blame, however, is defined by finding fault with someone or something.  The most obvious difference when examining these definitions is judgment. If someone blames you for something, they have found fault with something that you have done or some decision that you made. If you are to blame then something you have said or done has caused an adverse or undesired outcome.

blameI, like millions of other people, grew up in a less than ideal environment. That environment hindered my growth and development during that time. That environment helped shape me into the person that I have become today.  I could blame all my problems and bad decisions on my childhood.  I could blame all of life’s woes on my parents; convince myself, as well as others, they are terrible people or at least terrible parents. However, any such ascertain would not only be unrealistic, it would be a lie. The truth is my parents did the best they could with the information they had available to them at the time. My parents will always be my greatest teachers. My parents may have made some decisions I wish they wouldn’t have, but to blame them takes away any personal responsibility. I used to blame all my hardships on my mother, especially, and I can assure you it never did me any good.  My mother always says, “that was then and this is now” and she is right; choosing to forgive all involved and take responsibility for my part in the dysfunction helped significantly. I allowed myself to learn very valuable lessons and move on with my life and even become a better person. There is payoff in the pain; being the victim and blaming others only allows you to feel helpless, and feeling this way allows for you not to make the necessary changes that will improve your quality of life.  I do realize that not everyone had a “bad” childhood but everyone has adversity that must be overcome at some point in his or her life.

Taking responsibility allows us to learn from our history and personal experiences, where as blame is just a judgment that keeps you stuck in your own personal emotional hell. Blame is a judgment that prevents us from learning from our experiences and moving on in a healthy way that is beneficial for all involved. The economy is not in chaos because of one person’s greedy decision. Our way of life has not fundamentally changed because one powerful man or woman said it should. Our current dire circumstances are a direct result of everyone’s decisions. We have corrupt politicians but they work for us and we elected them into office. We have created many of the problems that we are facing, and now is the time to take responsibility and shift into a new way of relating to each other, shifting into the next paradigm.  Stop pointing your finger with blame because every time you do there are usually three more fingers pointing back at you.  The big book tells addicts that they have “stinking thinking” and it is that thinking that got them into trouble in the first place.  Shift from blame to responsibility and help yourself and the rest of us began the healing process together. Change your language and perception and you will see the world change right before your eyes.

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Thankfulness

~Rather than react negatively to people and events, we can include them and mould with them. Through acceptance, our consciousness jumps to another level of perception (understanding) and we realize that what we might have previously regarded as a problem can, if handled correctly, be a means to develop our strengths and remove our weaknesses. Whether a situation is a problem or a gift depends on our perception. The choice is ours.–