Lets talk about self-pity…

Lets talk about self pity...the answer is really worth its weight in gold if found, if we want to be happy we have to stop feeling sorry for ourselves and stop wallowing in self pity if you think  about it we all enjoy doing it.

Lets talk about self-pity…the answer is really worth its weight in gold if found.

Lets talk about self-pity…the answer is really worth its weight in gold if found. If we want to be  happy we have to stop feeling sorry for ourselves and stop wallowing in self-pity. If you think  about it we all enjoy doing it and we do it way more than we consciously realise.. self-pity is a  soul emotion that clouds our happiness and I invite you to consider that for a  second.. because self-pity is a very unique emotion that eats up everything all around us except itself, leaving itself on its own little island… bitter and angry and sticking up for its own  values..

Self-pity does feel good at first because it reminds us of  hey you know the worlds so cruel and  life’s dealt us a bad hand, we are just not worthy, and that might be true in some cases but  its pretty pointless and it’s not really going to help us.. Let go of self-pity… It’s all about being responsible for your thoughts and actions again and you will  automatically clear those grey clouds shielding you from true happiness.

We sometimes go into the self-pity mode when we get to a point in life, and there are  guaranteed to be a couple, we have all been there, many of us on a daily basis. It is terrible  sometimes when we feel the world is caving in, when things go wrong all at once and we start  to feel sorry for ourselves and we realise ” Gee ” life isn’t really that good and isn’t treating us very well and  maybe we are not worth anything.

Maybe things are just destined to not work out for us, and then we feel sorry for ourselves and just wallow in that self-pity, and it’s quite ironic because it makes us feel  good temporarily, we sort of think “hey yeah I was right!” so there’s a little sort of quite positive  feedback from the negativity. But as you move forward slowly that self-pity, that feeling sorry for yourself, turns very bitter and gets worse and worse then you find that people around you who are trying to help are changing towards you but STOP is it really them…?

hmm… but then again it is hard to forgive the people who innocently push your buttons instead you get angry with them when  you are wallowing in self.

Really it’s not good for our well-being at all …you  just have try as much as possible to stop feeling sorry for yourself and you’ll very rarely have a reason for sadness its bad for all long-term.  You’ll enjoy and have more happiness in your life if  you could just remember it is just a part of  life  not the whole of it. We are always dipping into happiness and sadness and we do need both sides of this coin in order to know the difference.

To help us forward ourselves and all around us  we need to endure sadness but not hold it and not for long periods of time not even a whole day if you can help it.. we have to embrace the duality of it and be gentle with ourselves.

Written by Joanne Wellington
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DON’T be to quick to judge story!

A young couple moved into a new house. 

The next morning while they were eating breakfast, the young woman saw her neighbour hanging the washing outside.

“That laundry is not very clean; she doesn’t know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs better soap powder. 

Her husband looked on, remaining silent.

Every time her neighbour hung her washing out to dry, the young woman made the same comments.

A month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband, “Look, she’s finally learned how to wash correctly. I wonder who taught her this?”

The husband replied, “I got up early this morning and cleaned our windows.”

And so it is with life… What we see when watching others depends on the clarity of the window through which we look.

So don’t be too quick to judge others, especially if your perspective of life is clouded by anger, jealousy, negativity or unfulfilled desires.

“Judging a person does not define who they are. It defines who you are.”

— Jonathan Kestenbaum

Someone who cannot see their weaknesses or failures.

“Imagine someone who cannot see their shadows, weaknesses or failures. Someone who thinks they were never wrong and never made a mistake. That is 100% unreasonable. We are human. The definition of human lies in the idea that we learn through experience, and that means we trip, fail, make dumb decisions UNTIL WE LEARN BETTER and grow.

But someone who REFUSES to see and face their failures doesn’t magically become better; they just blind themselves to half of their reality. Half of their identity and existence. This isn’t inspired by arrogance. It’s inspired by pure fear.

People who cannot gather the courage to face their shadow, avoid it because they are fully aware of the secrets that lie there and are hoping that if they don’t address them, then they will never have to admit the horrific reality, guilt, pain, suffering and negativity that lies right beneath the surface of their false persona.

It is a survival mechanism to blame others and avoid facing their own faults because their faults could crush them. If you pull the victim card every time someone tries to hold you accountable how do you ever expect to grow. Don’t fear to heal. All good things happen on the other side of healing.”

There’s a wonderful freedom in being able to admit that you’re wrong or that you don’t know something so go heal yourself and start now from here!

To find out more visit: medium2spirit.com – How to overcome negative thoughts

Have a good day Wishing you health, peace and empowerment.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻💙

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Don’t let the ugly in others kill the beauty.

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Sometimes, we are surrounded by people who hold negativity in them naturally and make us feel the same with their presence. Do not let this happen;make sure you are keeping yourself away from such toxic people and gatherings they will wear you down! And you will start to become toxic yourself without even realising it until its too late. Shield and protect yourself at all times. “Surround yourself, only with good vibes.” And if its the case that people are hating on you, don’t let that bring you down either. My whole life this has happened to me with my family situation!

Are people hating on you?

Are they trying to keep you down?

Here are a list of the best motivational & inspirational sayings for haters, jealousy, and negative people trying to bring you down (with some images & pictures).

If you are tired of all the negativity that other people are trying to throw at you, then you know that the only way to not let it affect you is by keeping your mind focused on yourself.

Here’s the truth about haters

They are insecure and feel insignificant.

A person hates you for 1 of 3 reasons:

1) They want to be you.

2) They hate themselves.

3) They see you as a threat.

When they see other people improving their life and becoming successful, its a direct reflection to them of what they should be doing but are not.

So, they try to spread their negativity hoping that you will stop so they no longer have to look at themselves.

In other words, they want to bring you down with them and steal your inner peace.

Every day is going to be a battlewith them.

You just need to rise above it all and stay positive.

Whatever happens, don’t let them bring you down.

Focus on yourself and keep hustling and grinding So use these phrases, sayings, and quotes about haters to keep you motivated.

Plus, you will also find what to say and messages to haters.

You can do this we are all one in a million to someone, And that’s all that matters take care.

~ Joanne wellington ~ 🙏🏻💙