6 Reasons Why It Doesn’t Matter What People Think Of You.

NOT EVERYONE LIKES ME
NOT EVERYONE LIKES ME

6 REASONS WHY IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU.

When we really think about it, much of our lives are often built around what other people think of us. Trying to impress others, being afraid of the opinions of others, and not doing what we want because of what we think goes on, or will go on, in other people’s heads can often dictate and harm our lives. Even the most confident people with the world at their feet most likely think a lot about what at least some people think of them.

In order to live the life we want, we must stop living in the eyes of others and embrace our own freedom. Here are six reasons why it really doesn’t matter what other people think of you.

1. You only get one life and it’s yours

In years to come, you will regret not doing what you wish because of what you thought others might think of you. The most powerful truth in the world is that you only get one life and if you allow other people’s opinions to dictate the course of that life then it may very well be wasted. We are so lucky to be alive that it is the most profound shame to not make of life the absolute most of it we can.

2. It is only shallow people that form negative opinions of what you do

Open, caring and intelligent people don’t look down on others for how they live their lives. The only people that do spend a lot of time fussing and stressing over the lives of others are the small-minded, ignorant and vacuous. Those people, because they don’t have enough going on in their own lives, they have to focus on other people’s lives and behaviour. Which begs the question, why would you care what such people think in the first place and why would you let them influence your life?

3. The opinions of others only describe themselves

If someone passes judgement on another saying they are ‘weird’, ‘boring’, ‘useless’ etc., then that is no judgement on the other person, it is a judgement on themselves. If a person really was any of those things why would they be spending all that time fussing over them and thinking about them? Such judgements reflect a weak-minded and insecure person.

4. No one knows your story but you

How can anyone pass judgement on anyone’s life if they haven’t walked in their shoes? Smart people understand that we all have our own path in life and that we alone must walk it and experience it. Therefore, you should never let other’s opinions influence your life when they haven’t seen, felt and experienced what you have. Only you know what is best for you.

5. You must live authentically

To live authentically means that we are honest with others, but more importantly, we are honest with ourselves. It means that we do not live a life of fake representations whereby we put on a mask and act to the world and pretend to be someone we are not. To live authentically is perhaps the most important thing we can do.

6. People don’t actually care

The truth of the matter is people don’t actually care what you do very much. The vast majority of people are caught up in their own lives, and do not have time to care about what you are doing. Think about it. Do you spend hours and hours thinking about what other people are doing or thinking about one embarrassing thing someone did years ago. Obviously not. Simply put, those that care don’t matter, and those that matter don’t care.

Many times we judge the acts of others, How can we not judge!

Question:

How can we not judge when someone does an act that is harmful to us  in a harmful manner ? If someone is doing a harmful act, should we just accept the harm saying that it is just the maturity level of the person? If there is no right or wrong, then are we not letting people justify their wrong doings? Without judging how can move away from something unpleasant?

My thoughts:

Can we look deeper within ourselves? Can we see that many times our judgements happen due to our
vested interest, when a personal desire goes unfulfilled? If the very same situation would had happened to someone else, then perhaps we may not have judged it the way we did. However when the mind experiences a personal loss, then it is quick to judge, have you noticed this? Many times we judge the acts of others, yet when the same act is committed by us, we are completely accepting of ourselves. This happens to the best of us – this is ego and attachment at play.

Judgement divides the world into two, into that which is acceptable and that which is not. Once the world is divided, conflict is inevitable. When the mind judges something as wrong or bad, it becomes agitated, it moves off from it’s center. The mental agitation does not help in making the situation we are dealing with better. When in judgement, instead of seeking for a “solution”, our mind starts contributing to the “problem” at hand. And then, repeated, strong mental agitations programs our subconscious mind into believing that these unwanted situations is actually what we desire, and thus more undesirable situations begin to manifest in our lives.

Say you have a light dimmer with 5 levels, 1 being the lowest (dark) and 5 being complete brightness. To judge the dimmer would be to keep our minds extremely blissful when the dimmer is at level 5, being happy when it is at level 4, neutral at level 3, being unhappy with the dimmer when it is at level 2, and then becoming completely upset with it when it is at level 1 (dark). And then if you prefer darkness instead of light, you do the same thing, just that your emotions will be in reverse – you would be upset when the dimmer is at level 5, and happy when it is level 1. In reality, why don’t we judge the dimmer? Could it be because we know that it is the nature of the dimmer to give different amount of light at different levels? In the same way, could it be possible that different people  give out different amounts of “light” depending on their present state of mind and their level of spiritual/psychological evolution?

Non judgement does not mean we let people run all over us and not take any necessary steps to move towards making the situation better. Indeed take appropriate action Be aware of where the road leads Choose intelligence. Not every decision we make is a moral choice. Sometimes its just a matter of choosing between stupidity and intelligence, but detach your mind from it, which is the cause for your negativity. To not judge is to see the act of the other and experience no resistance in our mind. It does not mean we accept the act, neither does it mean we reject the act. It is choiceless, awareness of the act. It is seeing things as they are, without the veil of our beliefs, prejudices, and our attachments. In pure awareness, there is no mental agitation, and you get energy to move towards creating an improved situation for yourself. While our judgement makes the undesirable behaviour persist, our awareness changes the very energy, the very karma of the situation In some cases letting go is the right choice and as we all know every situation is different  life is what it is and what we ourselves make it.. we are who we are  we are where we are because of our personal life’s journeys And what we need to learn from it.

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Nothing makes me more angry and sad than a cold and judgmental person.

Written by Joanne Wellington for Mediums World

Yes Mike Robbins is quite right in many aspects of his article  The Power of Empathy  and I have to say and have mentioned to people before that a cold and judgmental person is such a sad thing to see or be.

I wish people could learn to be more understanding. Nothing makes me more angry and sad than a cold and judgmental person.

We all have judgmental prejudices. We all think thoughts that separate us from one another. We may not necessarily agree with everyone, that would be very impossible, but we can at least try to understand why people do something or act in a certain way. We can learn a lot that way…

This may or may not change anything, but I have always felt bad in the past when I have judged people… WE really should do better…. We should learn not to judge . Life is so much more enriching the more people you know and there really are some wonderful people out there once you let go, and you will find out the more diverse they are.

I challenge people now to try to make yourself a better person. You may not always agree with others, but is it really so hard to see through someone else’s eyes and see the other side of the coin ? Trust me, you’ll be happier if you do. understanding is great patience, and great patience is gold within us……!!..its very important for your children to learn too if you have them..

Try it for you ,do it for them , lets help make the world a better place .