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How Mindfulness Can Help You Let Go Of Past Hurts and Heal Yourself

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How to Find Freedom from Your Past and let go of past hurts with Mindfulness

The past can often bring up painful memories and difficult emotions which can affect our future and our entire life. Letting of the past can be very challenging mostly because of unresolved issues. However, remembering the past is not what causes us pain & suffering and ties us to different negative thoughts & emotions.

It is our inability to detach from the attachment to that past which keeps us from finding freedom and happiness. Mindfulness can help us learn how to let go of the past hurts, the past and the attachments related to it by bringing our focus to the present moment and appreciating what we have right now.

“NO ONE OUTSIDE OURSELVES CAN RULE US INWARDLY. WHEN WE KNOW THIS, WE BECOME FREE.” – BUDDHA

Many of us have painful memories that we would rather forget—a difficult childhood, painful relationship, or traumatic event. We usually find ways to avoid thinking about them, so we don’t relive the painful emotions.

The reason they continue to cause us pain and suffering is that they remain unresolved. They fester in our subconscious mind, and manifest themselves daily in our attitudes and actions, and therefore, our relationships.

At the same time, we want to live happy and fulfilling lives. However, as long as these issues remain unresolved, we will never find freedom from our suffering, or realize the peace and happiness we’re searching for.

Here we’re going to look at how the mindfulness practice can help you overcome your painful past. But first we’ll discuss some of the sources of our painful memories, things we do to avoid them, and their cost.

Sources of Painful Memories

“BE CAREFUL WHO YOU MAKE MEMORIES WITH. THOSE THINGS CAN LAST A LIFETIME.” – UGO EZE

There are various sources of painful memories. The main ones are our relationships with our parents, romantic relationships, and traumatic events.

Many of us have strained relationships with our parents. We often feel like they didn’t give us some of the things we needed, such as love, attention, or financial support. Maybe they were neglectful, or even abusive. Whatever the case, we carry many of these painful childhood memories through much of our lives.

If we didn’t have good relationships with our parents, then chances are that our romantic relationships didn’t go much better. If our parents don’t teach us how to have healthy relationships, then we simply bring our lack of coping skills into all our subsequent relationships.

When we don’t get what we feel we need from our parents, we tend to expect those things from our partner. Sometimes we place unreasonable expectations on our partner, which are difficult for him/her to meet. This is where the power struggle begins.

Some of us may have experienced a traumatic event that we never fully dealt with. Some examples are verbal and physical abuse, sexual abuse, or even an accident. These can have long-lasting effects, especially if we haven’t sought professional help, or developed good coping skills.

Things We Do to Avoid Painful Memories

“MEMORIES ARE DANGEROUS THINGS. YOU TURN THEM OVER AND OVER, UNTIL YOU KNOW EVERY TOUCH AND CORNER, BUT STILL YOU’LL FIND AN EDGE TO CUT YOU.” – MARK LAWRENCE

It’s natural for us to want to avoid painful memories, especially if we haven’t yet learned how to deal with them. In such cases, we may feel powerless to do anything about them.

If someone else is the cause of our pain and suffering, then we may expect them to rectify the situation. But this is usually unrealistic. The person responsible may be far removed from our lives by time, distance, or their passing. They may also be unwilling.

When we don’t know how to deal with painful memories, we develop defense mechanisms to help us avoid the feelings associated with them. This usually involves trying to avoid thinking about those memories.

Mind shift.🙏💙

Charles A. Francis is the founder and director of the Mindfulness Meditation Institute. He has published numerous articles, and is the author of the book, Mindfulness Meditation Made Simple: Your Guide to Finding True Inner Peace. He has studied the mindfulness practice with Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh and has over 20 years of experience with mindfulness meditation. He is a speaker and consultant and leads workshops and retreats in Raleigh, NC, where he resides. To learn more, visit: MindfulnessMeditationInstitute.org.

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Forgiveness – All in all~The Path To Healing & Spiritual Growth ~

The dictionary defines the word forgive as: [to pardon, as to for-give an enemy; to cease to feel resentment for, as to forgive an offense].

I have heard people say this many times: “I will never forgive them for what they did!”, as if by saying this they are causing harm to the person who hurt them. The reality is that they are doing the harm to themselves alone. As defined in the dictionary, when you forgive someone you “cease to feel resentment”. Resentment, along with anger, hate, jealousy and other negative emotions, will eat you up inside and can cause actual physical ailments and disease.

Often times after we have been emotionally, physically or spiritually hurt, the pain quickly turns to anger and resentment. We go over the episodes of the past in our heads, re-living each painful moment again and again like a never-ending nightmare. Each time we do this the old feelings surface and we once again feel the gut-wrenching pain the person caused us. By doing this we are living in the past instead of the present, and it can be a dangerous thing for everyone involved but the majority of danger falls right into your lap.

Many people feel that forgiveness is a gift. I agree! It is a gift, but not to the one you are forgiving. The gift is to yourself and what a wondrous gift it can be.

By forgiving the people who have hurt you in the past you set yourself free from the chains of resentment and other harmful emotions running rampant through your mind, body and spirit. By forgiving you are taking away the control the other person has over you. You are empowering yourself and growing by spiritual leaps and bounds. You will heal deep-rooted pain that perhaps you thought was gone a long time ago but has survived, living under all of the resentment that you have held onto for so long. By forgiving you are one step closer to your journey of self-growth and healing.

Some of you are on a journey of helping Creator to give healing to others who need it. The first step on your journey is to heal yourself. This can be very difficult as well as painful but the upside to the difficulties and pain is the end result, which is very rewarding indeed. It will be rewarding for both you as a healer and for those who you will help to heal.

I have heard of horrific and tragic stories relating to the suffering that people on this earth have gone through and like many of you, I have often asked how Creator could place anyone in such situations. The truth of the matter is that many people who have lived such suffering and painful lives, or have survived horrific events go on to become wonderful healers on this earth, doing Creator’s work.

They start foundations, organizations, become therapists, doctors, authors of self-help and spiritual books, host talk shows. The list goes on.

So perhaps this was Creator’s plan all along and we should be thankful for many of the sufferings that have taken place and that we have to endure. Without them many people would not be who they are today – stronger, healthier, more forgiving, more helpful to others, more loving.

I once held on to a great amount of anger towards someone who had caused me pain for many years. One day a spiritual healer asked me to surround this person in light and send him love. I looked at the spiritual healer as if she were crazy! How DARE she ask me to do such a thing! How did she even think I would be capable of forgiving someone who had hurt me so bad?! I tried to remain open to what she was telling me, but honestly did not believe I could go through with it.

Then she said something to me that grabbed my attention – “By forgiving him and sending him loving thoughts, you will free yourself and he will no longer have such a great hold on you”. As I drove home after speaking with her, I thought of this sentence many times and just the idea of the freedom from the pain sounded so joyous and peaceful, yet far away at the same time.

About a week later I quietly sat down and asked Creator to help me do what needed to be done. I asked Creator to surround this man in his light, and then sent loving thoughts to him along with my forgiveness. Most importantly, I forgave myself for the choices I had made during those years, and took responsibility for them as well. The pain that I had been holding for so long in my heart slowly poured out as I wept tears of sadness and joy at the same time. That day I freed myself from the chains of resentment and anger, from the pain I had endured for so many years, and from the control of a man who would no longer control anything about me, or within me…. I had healed myself with help from Creator, and from the spiritual healer who with one sentence changed me, and healed me. I am thankful to her and to my experience, for it has made me who I am today.

The next time you think of the act of forgiveness, try not to only see the other person(s) as the only recipient. for you are the most important recipient involved, and you are well worth it. ~ Carl Ven ~

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Healers and Lightworkers: 5 Keys for Healing at a High Vibration

Want to discover how you can ‘Shine your Light’ brighter and reach your full  potential as a Healer or Lightworker?

As a professional healer I am often  approached by other healers wanting to  find ways to heal their own wounds and self-imposed limitations, so that they  can ‘step out of their own way’ and really get on with using their healing gifts  and knowledge for the benefit of each other, humanity and the planet.

I  have observed 5 key areas that healers and lightworkers need to address to reach  their full potential and do their healing work at a much higher  vibration.

1. Become part of a community of like-minded people
Too  often, as a healer or lightworker, you may feel isolated in your family or  social networlightworkersk as being ‘different’, possibly even a little bit ‘weird’! Many  times that naturally high sensitivity leads to shying away from others and a  tendency to introversion. Nurturing, supportive relationships can seem difficult  to find. You may fear authentic expression of yourself for fear of ridicule or  persecution (something which may have been a very real threat to you in previous  lifetimes as a healer).

I have always believed in the importance of  creating a safe space and networking  opportunities, both personally and via the wonder of the internet, so that  likeminded souls can really open up and talk freely together about issues that  really interest them – a place, real or virtual, where others really ‘get’ where  they are coming from and can engage in deep, meaningful conversations and learn  from each other.

The benefits of such a community of like-minded healers  can be far-reaching. Not only are you actively-engaged in the like-minded  community, you can be happier and more confident about fully expressing yourself  as a healer or lightworker, your vibration naturally raises, allowing you to do  your healing work at a higher level.

2. Strengthen your connection to  Source
Some of the ways I recommend are by spending more time Being than  Doing, meditating more, being still and going deep within. Feel and write down  daily in a journal everything you feel Gratitude for. Spend more time surrounded  by the sights, sounds and aromas of Nature to feel your connection to the Divine  strengthen. Whatever gives you pure, natural joy brings you closer to the Divine  and ignites that Divine spark within you.

3. Put yourself as your number  1 priority
Healers and lightworkers are hard-wired to give to others! In  order to continue to give to others at the highest level, you must first give to  yourself and learn how to receive. Fill up your own cup first that you may give  to others from the overflow.

You must be willing to do whatever it takes  to care for yourself and to move beyond your own blocks and limitations, either  by self-healing or in a therapeutic environment. Self-care must cover physical,  mental, emotional and spiritual needs. As a healer or lightworker you are  probably already good at addressing your spiritual needs and clearing the higher  chakras, but how much physical exercise do you get and how nutritious is your diet? I think you get what I  mean….

Balance and attention to self-care in all areas of your life is  necessary to be performing healing and lightwork at the highest  levels.

4. Develop high self-esteem
The archetype of Chiron, the  Wounded Healer, is well-known and may be applicable to you. Often the best  healers are those who have developed deep levels of compassion for others  through their own personal life traumas.

If you struggle financially,  have vague feelings of ‘not being good enough’, of having to ‘prove’ yourself as  worthy or you hold back from speaking your truth, then chances are your  self-esteem could do with a major boost. 85% of people suffer from low  self-esteem in one or more areas of life.

5. Forgiveness
This is a  tough one for many people – including healers – who feel that ‘stewing’ in  unforgiveness and anger towards those you perceived as having wronged you,  somehow is getting revenge on them! The only person who is really getting hurt  is you, maybe leading you to physical dis-ease. Often the offender has forgotten  about the incident or never realized there was a problem in the first  place.

Let it go! The gift of forgiveness is for yourself, not for the  person who wronged you. Are you willing to hold your vibration low and risk  serious diseases such as cancer just to  be ‘right’? Forgive yourself, too, for having allowed yourself to be caught up  in the drama for so long.

Perhaps more so than in any other occupation,  as healers and lightworkers you need to constantly be working to clear your own  physical, mental, emotional and spiritual blocks and limiting beliefs. Focusing  on the 5 keys above is imperative for you to reach your highest vibration and  potential to do your healing and lightwork. You owe it to your self. You owe it  to the planet. As Mahatma Ghandi said, “Be the change you want to see.” Shine  your light brighter to raise the consciousness of humanity and for planetary  healing.

Michelle  Mayur –    About the Author:

Michelle Mayur is the ‘Healer for Healers’ and the visionary founder of the  Heal the Healer global community. She helps healers and lightworkers reach more  of their healing potential to raise the consciousness of humanity. To receive  your FREE healing meditation audio and become a FREE Member of the Heal the  Healer community of healers and lightworkers, visit www.heal-the-healer.com. Copyright 2011 Michelle Mayur

 

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Japan Earthquake

May we offer our deepest sympathy and send out our prayers for the devastation in Japan and surrounding countries, may those affected find the best peace expected in such a tragic situation. May god and archangel Raphael  bring home safely and painlessly those who are no longer with us ,and as a group may we offer up all of our energy in the form of love & healing to those who are left to pick up the pieces of their torn apart hearts, homes,families and lives. This is so sad it is making me cry. Please everyone take a minute to send as much healing as your body can possibly offer and call on all those in spirit to channel through any healing or help that can be given god bless . xxx

 

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