Don’t give up

Don’t give up you’re doing great 👍

Past failures can cause many people to lose focus on their goals. In fact, some people just give up altogether when success is right around the corner.

Past failures can cause many people to lose focus on their goals. In fact, some people just give up altogether when success is right around the corner.

Don’t let that be you.

We have to accept the good and the bad as sometimes there just isn’t one without the other. I am grateful for my lowest point as I emerged out of it strong enough to realise what I had to do to survive.

Life is wonderful and I am so grateful to be able to live mine. I am grateful for it all. Embrace your lives. Embrace the good and the bad. Your happiness will come with your resolve.

Stay Positive and Please take care and have a good day. Wishing you health, peace and empowerment always.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻 💙

Feeling overwhelmed and helpless?

Often times, life throws challenging situations at us that are beyond our control. Perhaps your  artflow_202010021557relationship with your spouse is becoming worse and you are tired of trying to make it better. Or, you might have been laid off from a job and finding it challenging to meet ends. Perhaps your business is failing and unable to keep up with the competition. Or maybe you are tying to find the right life partner for many years now. In all the above situations, you tried your best to get what you want a number of times, only to encounter disappointment time after time. Now you feel overwhelmed and helpless with the problem at hand, and no longer believe that a solution is possible. Does this sound like you? If so read on.

Why do we give up?

Failure is painful. No one wants to try again and again just to fail each time and lose all respect of those around them in the process . In order to avoid further pain, our mind simply gives up on us. When this happens, one becomes unwilling to attempt anything further as the moment we think about the problem, all the painful thoughts of past failure overwhelms us, and all we are able to do is to give ourselves reasons why any action we take will not succeed.

The good news is that whatever  the life situation or whatever life throws at us, we can always turn it around once we decide to make it happen! Here are some tips to orchestrate the turn around :

1) Believe it is possible to succeed

The only real danger is your belief that there is no solution for your problem – that you are indeed helpless. You need to first remove this belief if you want to make any progress. The fact is that all power to find that solution lies within you – you are just not seeing the solution yet.

2) Your past is not equal to your future

Your future has got nothing to do with the past. By taking correct action in the present moment, you can create anything you want. Learn from the past but do not get stuck in it.

3) Practice Persistence

Success takes persistence. People who stick around longer without giving up open themselves to success more than people who give up easily when they fail a few times. Successful people never stop trying.

4) Do it better each day

While persistence is good, one needs to always look for better ways to solve the same problem. Get creative and see how you can solve the same problem in a better way, that you did not attempt yesterday.

5) There are no real failures

Each failure is a stepping stone to future success. Failures brings us much needed knowledge and experience that was lacking the last time around. If the correct lessons are learnt and applied from past experiences, success if not far away.

6) Consult with an expert

It is good to get some fresh ideas from other people who have experience and skill dealing with the challenges you are facing. For example, some relationships that you could not improve by yourself for over a decade can be turned around in a couple of months with help from a skilled relationship coach. The same goes with other areas of life such as your career, health and finances.

7) Stay positive and appreciative of what you do have

Just because one area of your life is not working the way you want, do not fool yourself into believing that your entire life has gone haywire. When we are focused on what is lacking, we just tend not to pay enough attention to what is working. Practice genuine appreciation of the areas of your life that are doing great. Whatever the situation, each one of us has a lot to be grateful for, that some others may not be blessed with.

8) Know that this too shall pass

No problem remains forever. Most of us have faced problems that perhaps felt like the end of the world many years back, that hardly cross our mind at this time. With continued right effort, you will find the solution much sooner than you think.

Have a good day and take care. Wishing you health, peace and empowerment always.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏💙

Self Love & Happiness

Today I feel the need to post this. I think we are all in need of a reminder that you are all amazing and we need to learn to love ourselves and take time for ourselves too.

We also need to find our own happiness, I think sometimes we all have this idea that someone else has to make us happy, that’s far from the truth, the truth is that’s down to you, there is no such thing as being constantly happy.

Life is full of ups and downs, its how we chose to deal with those situations that matters, happiness comes from within.

So choosing to smile, choosing to dance, sing, whatever make you happy do it, if you can’t fix something why worry? What purpose does that hold? Let it go.

The universe knows what to do even though you may not, trust in the universe, put out positive energy and you will get it back three fold.

Have a good day. Wishing you health, peace and empowerment always.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻 💙

To forgive takes strength to set aside what is often justifiable anger.

To forgive really is divine. It takes strength to set aside what is often justifiable anger. It’s much easier to hold a grudge. Yet when we make the choice and allow ourselves to put aside that anger and to forgive those who have harmed us, we actually do ourselves a great service. Making the conscious decision to let go of pain is the beginning of healing. But doing so is challenging because it is easy to become attached to seeing oneself as a victim and to hold onto resentment, even when the person who has harmed us is genuinely sorry. Forgiving someone is both one of the most difficult and one of the most spiritually rewarding choices we can make.            

While forgiveness is a noble act, expressing true forgiveness is empowering because it helps us to stop feeling like victims and to dispel our own suffering at having been wronged. Our levels of anger and hostility decreases while our capacity to love increases.We are better able to control our anger and we have an enhanced capacity to trust. We are freed from the control of past events, which can help us to stop repeating negative behaviour. Both our physical and mental health improves. Though many people feel forgiveness is something that must be asked for or earned by another, forgiveness is actually a gift you give to yourself…..  

Have a good day. Wishing you health, peace and empowerment.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏💙

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Lets talk about self-pity…

Lets talk about self pity...the answer is really worth its weight in gold if found, if we want to be happy we have to stop feeling sorry for ourselves and stop wallowing in self pity if you think  about it we all enjoy doing it.

Lets talk about self-pity…the answer is really worth its weight in gold if found.

Lets talk about self-pity…the answer is really worth its weight in gold if found. If we want to be  happy we have to stop feeling sorry for ourselves and stop wallowing in self-pity. If you think  about it we all enjoy doing it and we do it way more than we consciously realise.. self-pity is a  soul emotion that clouds our happiness and I invite you to consider that for a  second.. because self-pity is a very unique emotion that eats up everything all around us except itself, leaving itself on its own little island… bitter and angry and sticking up for its own  values..

Self-pity does feel good at first because it reminds us of  hey you know the worlds so cruel and  life’s dealt us a bad hand, we are just not worthy, and that might be true in some cases but  its pretty pointless and it’s not really going to help us.. Let go of self-pity… It’s all about being responsible for your thoughts and actions again and you will  automatically clear those grey clouds shielding you from true happiness.

We sometimes go into the self-pity mode when we get to a point in life, and there are  guaranteed to be a couple, we have all been there, many of us on a daily basis. It is terrible  sometimes when we feel the world is caving in, when things go wrong all at once and we start  to feel sorry for ourselves and we realise ” Gee ” life isn’t really that good and isn’t treating us very well and  maybe we are not worth anything.

Maybe things are just destined to not work out for us, and then we feel sorry for ourselves and just wallow in that self-pity, and it’s quite ironic because it makes us feel  good temporarily, we sort of think “hey yeah I was right!” so there’s a little sort of quite positive  feedback from the negativity. But as you move forward slowly that self-pity, that feeling sorry for yourself, turns very bitter and gets worse and worse then you find that people around you who are trying to help are changing towards you but STOP is it really them…?

hmm… but then again it is hard to forgive the people who innocently push your buttons instead you get angry with them when  you are wallowing in self.

Really it’s not good for our well-being at all …you  just have try as much as possible to stop feeling sorry for yourself and you’ll very rarely have a reason for sadness its bad for all long-term.  You’ll enjoy and have more happiness in your life if  you could just remember it is just a part of  life  not the whole of it. We are always dipping into happiness and sadness and we do need both sides of this coin in order to know the difference.

To help us forward ourselves and all around us  we need to endure sadness but not hold it and not for long periods of time not even a whole day if you can help it.. we have to embrace the duality of it and be gentle with ourselves.

Written by Joanne Wellington
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