MASTER YOUR EMOTIONS.

Joe makes a comment and you suddenly feel a rush of energy. Your face flushes and your knuckles whiten as you begin squeezing the edge of the table for dear life. Some part of you knows that this feeling is not proportionate to Joe’s comment or intention, but something was triggered in you nonetheless, and you’re ready to bite his head off.

To be effective as a friend, spouse, significant other, co-worker, manager, leader, or whatever role you’re playing at the moment, learning to manage your feelings is a critical step toward living a happy, successful, and fulfilled life. And let me just say this up front, managing your feelings doesn’t mean that you stuff them down and repress them. It means that you become aware of what’s going on inside of you, own your feelings as your own, heed the message that they have for you, and act responsibly.

What are emotions and what is emotional mastery? Emotions are often described as energy in motion. They become problems only when we judge them as wrong, bad, or inappropriate. When we let our emotions run us, we miss the message that they carry. When we stuff them down for fear of what they might cause us to do, they simply lie in wait to emerge with a vengeance later on. Emotional mastery is the ability to process our emotions so that we receive their message and use their energy for appropriate action.

Our emotions are very much a reflection of our beliefs about life events. For example, if you believe that you are your work and you suddenly lose your job, you are likely to feel an incredible amount of fear, as you perceive your very survival to be at stake. If you repress this fear, possibly because you view it as a weakness, you’ll probably experience anger or rage and at some point, you will likely lash out at whoever’s available.

If on the other hand, you are a person who views your job simply as one aspect of your life, and you know that your inherent value lies in your unique skills and qualities, then your feelings and response to losing your job will probably be a whole lot different. You may just view this loss as an opportunity to explore a whole new path for yourself.

The bottom line here is this: how you feel in any situation corresponds exactly with what you believe about yourself and the situation. Master your beliefs, and you’ll master your emotions.

Knowing that you can change how you feel simply by changing how you think about each experience is a powerful concept.

So if you feel upset about something, ask yourself, “How can I reinterpret this event in a such a way that I can feel good or at least OK about it?” If you have a bill you can’ pay, instead of getting mad or sad about it, decide that this is an opportunity to redesign your financial life. Ask for help, develop a plan, and use your energy to get moving on it.

How you think about your emotions adds even another layer. We often give ourselves a double whammy when we get upset about feeling upset. Here are some positive ways to interpret the purpose of our basic emotions set down by Peter McWilliams in his book, “Do It.”

Fear is the energy to do your best in a new situation.
Guilt is the energy for personal change-it is anger directed toward ourselves, and anger is the energy for change.

Unworthiness keeps us on track–just as we can have anything we want, we can’t have everything we want. So too, we are worthy of anything we want, but we may not be worthy of everything we want.

Hurt feelings are a reminder of how much we care.


So how can you use this information in your life? I suggest that you examine any beliefs you hold around emotions and the situations that trigger them. Begin to cultivate present moment awareness as your emotions arise. Just notice them and look at them, not as good or bad, but simply with curiosity, and with the question, what’s this energy for and how do I choose to use it?

Practice. Begin the practice of observing emotions when they arise and identify any judgments you might have about them. Focus instead on listening to the message they hold for you. Then, if you should be so bold, act on this message by expressing the emotion in a positive fashion.

OK How To Master Your Emotions

The first thing you have to understand in the mastery of your emotions is that each of your emotions are Action Signals that your mind sends to you. So these perceived negative emotions should not be suppressed, rather, you should realize the real message they send out like i said before and take proper corrective action.

Step 1. Identify Your Action Signals

These action signals can be classified broadly into 10 types namely :

Discomfort
Emotional pain / Hurt
Anger
Disappointment
Inadequacy
Frustration
Fear
Overwhelmed
Guilt / Regret
Loneliness
When you experience one or more of these action signals, you should realize that they are sending you a specific message. To gain control of your emotions, you have to listen to these messages and take proper action.

For example, if you feel extremely angry towards something or someone, the message this action signal sends is – One of your important rule or standard has been violated.

If you are beset with Fear , it is a clear signal that you should prepare yourselves to avoid the negative consequences.

Once you have identified the action signals you are experiencing, you move to the next step. That being …

Step 2. Change Your Perception or Procedure


Now that you have identified your action signals, you should either change your perception (style of thinking / your feelings) or change your procedure (behavioral pattern). Doing this will help you to control your emotions better.

Written by Joanne Wellington for Medium2spirit.com                                        

Have a good day Wishing you health, peace and empowerment.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻💙

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Why do you stay in prison when the door is wide open?

A powerful question to ask yourself.

At times my answers have surprised me.” I have stayed in prison out of fear, doubt, and a sense of obligation.

To stay with those I love, the guilt of growing beyond some friends and family, the unknown that creates uncertainty.

Because of what the next level required of me, because I was too blinded by belief to see, the door really was open to me.

Because it was my rightful place, because it was all I knew, because I didn’t feel worthy, because I didn’t believe I was meant to leave, I had grown comfortably uncomfortable in this prison I was born into.

But yes the door was always open!

Have a good day Wishing you health, peace and empowerment.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻💙

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Fear! Our greatest instinctual fears.

Fear of the unknown is one of our greatest instinctual fears. For many the first and almost automatic response to feeling fear is to to pull back into the comfortably uncomfortable zone.

That place where we know what to expect, creating a sense of comfort and yet, we are not fulfilled or where we want to be, leaving us with a different type of discomfort. A discomfort that is easier in the moment but has little to no chance of ever improving.

Each success comes with change. Each dream come true brings change. Becoming a parent brings great change. Each magical place you travel is possible only through change.

The greatest blessings you will ever know are wrapped in change.When the urge to resist or avoid change emerges, try remembering that this temporary discomfort is your choice, and you are welcoming growth into your life rather than chaos.

Change reminds me of a flowing river: We either spend our lives fighting to swim upstream or choose to swim downstream, harnessing the current’s power. Once you’ve decided to turn around in the water, though, there’s directing yourself through the flow.

When you’re ready to set your direction and ride the waves, it helps to catch your bearings first by identifying where you are in your change process.

When we begin to see the beauty and blessings in change, our fear begins to subside. If we take the time to teach our minds to see that everything we desire flows on waves of change, we may just find we become excited instead of intimidated by the process of positive transformation.

It is a learned skill, not an automatic preset. Wishing you all eyes that see the beauty in change go on just go for it!

Have a good day Wishing you health, peace and empowerment.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻💙

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I’m falling apart. Can you put me back together?

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Me: Hey God.
God: Hello…..
Me: I’m falling apart. Can you put me back together?
God: I would rather not.
Me: Why?
God: Because you aren’t a puzzle.
Me: What about all of the pieces of my life that are falling down onto the ground?
God: Let them stay there for a while. They fell off for a reason. Take some time and decide if you need any of those pieces back.
Me: You don’t understand! I’m breaking down!
God: No – you don’t understand. You are breaking through. What you are feeling are just growing pains. You are shedding the things and the people in your life that are holding you back. You aren’t falling apart. You are falling into place. Relax. Take some deep breaths and allow those things you don’t need anymore to fall off of you. Quit holding onto the pieces that don’t fit you anymore. Let them fall off. Let them go.
Me: Once I start doing that, what will be left of me?
God: Only the very best pieces of you.
Me: I’m scared of changing.
God: I keep telling you – YOU AREN’T CHANGING!! YOU ARE BECOMING!
Me: Becoming who?
God: Becoming who I created you to be! A person of light and love and charity and hope and courage and joy and mercy and grace and compassion. I made you for more than the shallow pieces you have decided to adorn yourself with that you cling to with such greed and fear. Let those things fall off of you. I love you! Don’t change! … Become! Become! Become who I made you to be. I’m going to keep telling you this until you remember it.
Me: There goes another piece.
God: Yep. Let it be.
Me: So … I’m not broken?
God: Of course Not! – but you are breaking like the dawn. It’s a new day. Become!!!
~John Roedel~

Hope this serves you well Have a good day Wishing you health, peace and empowerment.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻💙

The Powers of a Positive Mental Attitude

positive-mental-attitudeIf you were to write down you thoughts for the next hour would most of them  be positive or negative? How do you know if your thoughts are positive or  negative? Do you have motivational thoughts, thoughts full of gratitude for what  you have and what is coming your way, or are your thoughts full of what you lack  or would like to have but don’t?

Now let’s say you are taking a walk  down the street with these thoughts you wrote down. Do you think anyone you meet  would be able to tell you what’s on your mind?

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What Does Unconditional Love Really Mean?

Love and freedom are two of those words that are interchangeable. Freedom of choice is unconditional love- unconditional freedom. Choice is another of those words that are interchangeable with Love and freedom.

freedom_to_loveFor the most part, humanity understands little of what the word unconditional means. Unconditional means… “NO CONDITIONS.” This lack of understanding is what has divided man from man, and religion from religion throughout his sojourn in the physical reality. It is again man’s ego trying to grasp the idea, and not being able to surrender to its meaning. It appears to be the nature of humanity to always add conditions to unconditional-let me demonstrate.

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What Does Unconditional Love Really Mean?.