MASTER YOUR EMOTIONS.

Joe makes a comment and you suddenly feel a rush of energy. Your face flushes and your knuckles whiten as you begin squeezing the edge of the table for dear life. Some part of you knows that this feeling is not proportionate to Joe’s comment or intention, but something was triggered in you nonetheless, and you’re ready to bite his head off.

To be effective as a friend, spouse, significant other, co-worker, manager, leader, or whatever role you’re playing at the moment, learning to manage your feelings is a critical step toward living a happy, successful, and fulfilled life. And let me just say this up front, managing your feelings doesn’t mean that you stuff them down and repress them. It means that you become aware of what’s going on inside of you, own your feelings as your own, heed the message that they have for you, and act responsibly.

What are emotions and what is emotional mastery? Emotions are often described as energy in motion. They become problems only when we judge them as wrong, bad, or inappropriate. When we let our emotions run us, we miss the message that they carry. When we stuff them down for fear of what they might cause us to do, they simply lie in wait to emerge with a vengeance later on. Emotional mastery is the ability to process our emotions so that we receive their message and use their energy for appropriate action.

Our emotions are very much a reflection of our beliefs about life events. For example, if you believe that you are your work and you suddenly lose your job, you are likely to feel an incredible amount of fear, as you perceive your very survival to be at stake. If you repress this fear, possibly because you view it as a weakness, you’ll probably experience anger or rage and at some point, you will likely lash out at whoever’s available.

If on the other hand, you are a person who views your job simply as one aspect of your life, and you know that your inherent value lies in your unique skills and qualities, then your feelings and response to losing your job will probably be a whole lot different. You may just view this loss as an opportunity to explore a whole new path for yourself.

The bottom line here is this: how you feel in any situation corresponds exactly with what you believe about yourself and the situation. Master your beliefs, and you’ll master your emotions.

Knowing that you can change how you feel simply by changing how you think about each experience is a powerful concept.

So if you feel upset about something, ask yourself, “How can I reinterpret this event in a such a way that I can feel good or at least OK about it?” If you have a bill you can’ pay, instead of getting mad or sad about it, decide that this is an opportunity to redesign your financial life. Ask for help, develop a plan, and use your energy to get moving on it.

How you think about your emotions adds even another layer. We often give ourselves a double whammy when we get upset about feeling upset. Here are some positive ways to interpret the purpose of our basic emotions set down by Peter McWilliams in his book, “Do It.”

Fear is the energy to do your best in a new situation.
Guilt is the energy for personal change-it is anger directed toward ourselves, and anger is the energy for change.

Unworthiness keeps us on track–just as we can have anything we want, we can’t have everything we want. So too, we are worthy of anything we want, but we may not be worthy of everything we want.

Hurt feelings are a reminder of how much we care.


So how can you use this information in your life? I suggest that you examine any beliefs you hold around emotions and the situations that trigger them. Begin to cultivate present moment awareness as your emotions arise. Just notice them and look at them, not as good or bad, but simply with curiosity, and with the question, what’s this energy for and how do I choose to use it?

Practice. Begin the practice of observing emotions when they arise and identify any judgments you might have about them. Focus instead on listening to the message they hold for you. Then, if you should be so bold, act on this message by expressing the emotion in a positive fashion.

OK How To Master Your Emotions

The first thing you have to understand in the mastery of your emotions is that each of your emotions are Action Signals that your mind sends to you. So these perceived negative emotions should not be suppressed, rather, you should realize the real message they send out like i said before and take proper corrective action.

Step 1. Identify Your Action Signals

These action signals can be classified broadly into 10 types namely :

Discomfort
Emotional pain / Hurt
Anger
Disappointment
Inadequacy
Frustration
Fear
Overwhelmed
Guilt / Regret
Loneliness
When you experience one or more of these action signals, you should realize that they are sending you a specific message. To gain control of your emotions, you have to listen to these messages and take proper action.

For example, if you feel extremely angry towards something or someone, the message this action signal sends is – One of your important rule or standard has been violated.

If you are beset with Fear , it is a clear signal that you should prepare yourselves to avoid the negative consequences.

Once you have identified the action signals you are experiencing, you move to the next step. That being …

Step 2. Change Your Perception or Procedure


Now that you have identified your action signals, you should either change your perception (style of thinking / your feelings) or change your procedure (behavioral pattern). Doing this will help you to control your emotions better.

Written by Joanne Wellington for Medium2spirit.com                                        

Have a good day Wishing you health, peace and empowerment.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻💙

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The biggest question of all time “WHY”..?

They say its a jungle out there  and yes it is .  if ever we’ve lived in a time of all-powerful “That is now”.

Why

“They” or “us” are the ones ready with the solution for everything that keeps us awake at night: with the questions on ..how can I lose weight?  Get healthy?  Find the love of my life? Maintain the love of my life? Make my children’s life better? Snag the right job?  Get out of debt? Keep all the people I care about in my life? Yet even Google, twitter http://mediumsworld.wordpress.com/ the internet itself and the gaggles of gurus don’t make the questions go away “WHY”.

We’re taking more pills to fall asleep than ever (and asking our doctors for them by name)., store shelves are stuffed with diet and exercise books, but 65 percent of us remain overweight. Countless how-to quit smoking  guides exist to prevent  the certain deaths of one of every two smokers, and informed decisions about the effects of alcohol on  lives and lifestyles.  alcohol education programmes, grants, expert information, and resources to help create awareness around alcohol units and alcohol related issues.

Forty-eight million adults continue to light up each day each year to help us understand what the hell is going on.

But yet the world is still awash with questions and answers, so “WHY” aren’t we-or-it–getting any better…”WHY”…?

The fact is that an ever-changing world and our perpetually evolving lives guarantee that we all share the same piece of real estate,. our human address is indeed on the edge-of chaos and clarity, of struggle and success, of wondering and wisdom and more often than not we are dusty from the challenges of day-to -day living . The thing is every time we think we have it all worked out,  a new-or an old-question comes along to shake things up and make us feel like we’re falling off the edge once again. Even as we gather experiences that may help us shape our lives for the better and more effectively to enable us to face familiar challenges with greater  ease,  what we know in one moment does not ensure we’ll know how to face what’s next.

Life is always asking us questions and the biggest question will always be “WHY” the fact is our lives are the “answers”… life is simply what we make it… strength, courage, will power, dreams , love and desire.

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Written by Joanne Wellington for Mediums World

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