Feeling overwhelmed and helpless?

Often times, life throws challenging situations at us that are beyond our control. Perhaps your  artflow_202010021557relationship with your spouse is becoming worse and you are tired of trying to make it better. Or, you might have been laid off from a job and finding it challenging to meet ends. Perhaps your business is failing and unable to keep up with the competition. Or maybe you are tying to find the right life partner for many years now. In all the above situations, you tried your best to get what you want a number of times, only to encounter disappointment time after time. Now you feel overwhelmed and helpless with the problem at hand, and no longer believe that a solution is possible. Does this sound like you? If so read on.

Why do we give up?

Failure is painful. No one wants to try again and again just to fail each time and lose all respect of those around them in the process . In order to avoid further pain, our mind simply gives up on us. When this happens, one becomes unwilling to attempt anything further as the moment we think about the problem, all the painful thoughts of past failure overwhelms us, and all we are able to do is to give ourselves reasons why any action we take will not succeed.

The good news is that whatever  the life situation or whatever life throws at us, we can always turn it around once we decide to make it happen! Here are some tips to orchestrate the turn around :

1) Believe it is possible to succeed

The only real danger is your belief that there is no solution for your problem – that you are indeed helpless. You need to first remove this belief if you want to make any progress. The fact is that all power to find that solution lies within you – you are just not seeing the solution yet.

2) Your past is not equal to your future

Your future has got nothing to do with the past. By taking correct action in the present moment, you can create anything you want. Learn from the past but do not get stuck in it.

3) Practice Persistence

Success takes persistence. People who stick around longer without giving up open themselves to success more than people who give up easily when they fail a few times. Successful people never stop trying.

4) Do it better each day

While persistence is good, one needs to always look for better ways to solve the same problem. Get creative and see how you can solve the same problem in a better way, that you did not attempt yesterday.

5) There are no real failures

Each failure is a stepping stone to future success. Failures brings us much needed knowledge and experience that was lacking the last time around. If the correct lessons are learnt and applied from past experiences, success if not far away.

6) Consult with an expert

It is good to get some fresh ideas from other people who have experience and skill dealing with the challenges you are facing. For example, some relationships that you could not improve by yourself for over a decade can be turned around in a couple of months with help from a skilled relationship coach. The same goes with other areas of life such as your career, health and finances.

7) Stay positive and appreciative of what you do have

Just because one area of your life is not working the way you want, do not fool yourself into believing that your entire life has gone haywire. When we are focused on what is lacking, we just tend not to pay enough attention to what is working. Practice genuine appreciation of the areas of your life that are doing great. Whatever the situation, each one of us has a lot to be grateful for, that some others may not be blessed with.

8) Know that this too shall pass

No problem remains forever. Most of us have faced problems that perhaps felt like the end of the world many years back, that hardly cross our mind at this time. With continued right effort, you will find the solution much sooner than you think.

Have a good day and take care. Wishing you health, peace and empowerment always.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏💙

The place where heaven and earth are said to meet.

This video was produced in (Salar de Uyuni) in Bolivia, the place where heaven and earth are said to meet. It turns out that the salar (a natural reservoir of open salt) remains completely dry on most days of the year, but in the rainy season that comes with summer, the site can become submerged. When this happens, flat salt becomes a kind of mirror, which reflects the entire scene on the ground. Then the sky meets the Earth.

Life is a gift to be used every day

life-is-a-giftLife is a gift to be used every day,
Not to be smothered and hidden away;
It isn’t a thing to be stored in the chest
Where you gather your keepsakes and treasure your best;
It isn’t a joy to be sipped now and then
…And promptly put back in a dark place again.

Life is a gift that the humblest may boast of
And one that the humblest may well make the most of.
Get out and live it each hour of the day,
Wear it and use it as much as you may;
Don’t keep it in niches and corners and grooves,
You’ll find that in service its beauty improves.

~ Edgar Guest ~

when women talk’s about other women.

~I am disgusted when women talk about other women. That is called self-hating. …When a woman hates on another woman, that hater not only degrades herself but also slips down further from the woman she’s hating on. Ladies, A REAL WOMAN KNOWS HER WORTH THEREFORE SHE DOES NOT NEED TO ENVY OR HATE, JUDGE OR BE JEALOUS OF ANOTHER WOMAN. Have some pride and respect. We must uplift other women instead of bringing them down. Unless YOU ARE A SAINT or GOD, you have no right to judge ANYONE. And who are you to judge? Oh, your educated, and you have a degree but WITHOUT CLASS . An educated woman DOES NOT need to hate on anyone. So if you think having a piece of paper hanging on your wall, or having a high-paying job gives you the right to hate, judge and talk about another woman, then you have wasted all that money and time you spent on getting that piece of paper because OBVIOUSLY you haven’t learned a damn thing.

You can pay for education but you can NEVER BUY CLASS. Please look in the mirror and CLASSIFY AND CLAIM YOURSELF AS A DAMN HATER and get help soon. Hatred is a disease. A DISEASE OF THE SOUL. Please Oh please get some damn help. I ONLY FEEL SORRY FOR YOU. When you judge another woman, you define WHO YOU REALLY ARE and I hope your man realizes that!

I DON’T HATE YOU. I HAVE NO REASON TO HATE ANYONE. YOU DON’T KNOW ME AND I DON’T KNOW YOU. Please spend some time working on yourselves so you do not need to hate on anyone. You can have the prettiest face and the sexiest body, still does not give you the right to judge or hate and to me, your ugly personality plus your diseased soul equals “the ugliest woman ever” Actually it gose for man too. SHAME ON YOU! Good luck with that!

–Angel~

Try to avoid environments with lower energies.

To become more positive, surround yourself with positivity energy and avoid environments with lower energies.

Have you ever noticed that when you enter a room with a bunch of people, you can instantly feel the energy of the environment? Whether the energy is positive or negative, your mood is very likely to get influence…d by it. Each and every interaction we have with the outside world influences our mind. The mind turns relatively negative when in the midst of negative energy, and it turns relatively positive when in the midst of positive energy.

If you want to maintain a positive mind, the smart thing to do is to thus to exercise discretion, to the extent possible, as to what kind of energy you expose your mind to. Consciously choose situations that make you happy, and avoid situations that bring your energy down. The following are some of the areas where we can make conscious positive choices as opposed to blindly subjecting ourselves to negative energy:

1) People:
Seek people who energize you. These people are happy and positive themselves. They are full of joy, and perceive the world to be a wonderful place full of possibilities. To the extent possible, avoid people who drain your energy. These people are forever stuck in the negative. They are chronic complainers, who see themselves as perfect, and just that the world needs to change to suit their own likes and dislikes. This does not mean that negative people do not deserve our love – in fact they need it more than positive people. What this means is that until the time we become very positive ourselves, it is best to avoid negative influences. After reaching a certain level in your spiritual growth, you will find that you have more mental immunity towards negative energy. When that time comes, you can become a source of strength to others.

2) TV/Movies:
Avoid all programs that bring your energy down. This means it is best to mostly stop watching the news. Negative news sells more then positive news, and thus the news is generally fully of negative energy. Whatever the bad news, it has already happened, and we can do nothing about it. By not choosing to participate in watching it, we stop being innocent transmitters of the negative energy. If you must watch TV, consciously choose inspirational and motivational programs. Completely avoiding TV is not a bad idea either. It will free up precious time for things that will help you grow as a person. Similarly, while selecting movies to watch,  it is best to avoid movies that are tragic and violent. Instead, watch happy, funny and Inspirational movies that uplifts your spirit.

3) Internet/Newspapers:
Again it is best to avoid reading online and offline news regularly. Even reading up on gossip does not help a person become positive. Gossip is simply judgement passed on someone else’s life. It is better to look at our own self and see how we can improve instead. Even on facebook, keep a watch for people who regularly post negative content. They are only showing us the quality of their own minds, and the more we expose ourselves to them, the more we are likely to become like them.

Just as the quality of your physical health is determined to the quality of the foods you take in, the quality of the mental health is determined by the energy of the environments you expose yourself to. The more discretion you exercise in consciously choosing positive environments, the more positive you will become.