NOTE TO SELF… GET YOURSELF BACK.

NOTE TO SELF... GET YOURSELF BACK.. ~ Because you didn't want to lose him, you lost yourself in the process.
Self-esteem

Get yourself back!

“Because you didn’t want to lose him, you lost yourself in the process”.

You became a girl who kept being mistreated and you formed a habit of saying “I’m used to it”.

You became a girl who kept being unappreciated and you begin to tell yourself “it’s okay”.

You became a girl who kept being undervalued and you learned how to say “I’m fine”.

You became a girl who kept being put last and you naturally reacted with “it’s whatever”.

You became a girl who kept being taken for granted and you dealt with it by repeating “everything’s ok”.

You became a girl who kept being unhappy and you regularly told people “I’m going to be fine” But you know deep down your NOT😢…..

And if you’re reading this right now, then you need to understand that no guy is worth losing yourself for, no guy is worth suffering for at the expense of YOU… your happiness!

“We all go through hard times in life. It’s a part of being alive and it’s the reality we all have to deal with.

There are times we forget our value as a person because we are so blinded with these thoughts of loneliness, emptiness and ego.

Somewhere along the road we become numbed with all the frustrations and dissatisfaction.

But life itself isn’t always about darkness and sadness, Life is also filled with colours and that makes it beautiful. Along this path of darkness there’s always light waiting to be seen by our daunted hearts.

Our heart is gifted to see this light.

It may be hiding behind those circumstances that we encounter; in a stranger we just met at an unexpected place; a family who has been always there but you just ignored because of your imperfect relationship with them; because you have given it your all to the very person that is killing your soul and your life!

It might be a long time friend you have or a friend you just met or a friend that is waiting just round the corner if you freed yorself.

Open your heart and you will see how blessed you are to have them all in your life. STOP GIVING it your all to ONE PERSON that don’t DESERVE you.

Just remember Sometimes the people in your life are there for a reason they are the light that shines your path in some dark phases of life. Don’t lose them and don’t lose hope…”

As you grow and evolve, it might feel like you’re losing your mind. But you’re just losing the old mindset that was
holding you back. But it’s all normal

Don’t Take Anything Personally that’s just down right cruel anymore! What ever they says and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.

When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Also if you have children please 🙏 think about them and I mean really think hard! So many broken parents are building broken children. Don’t let your mess become the foundation of your child’s life. Break the cycle you’ve got this.🙏

I was terribly mistreated. Children raised in this toxic environment will keep the abuse or being abused going generation after generation.

Get yourself back!

Let the old self go and focus on YOU! GET YOURSELF BACK GIRL. 🙏💙 before it’s too late.

The people who care for you can see it plain as day! You should away listen when more than 2 people have the same concerns only you can save yourself. Please take care in all of your endeavours and stop giving up your power of self!

P.S. This post applies to both sexes. A male or Female can be the abuser. Abuse doesn’t have a gender.

Have a good day. Wishing you health, peace and empowerment always.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻 💙

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Is He/She Abusive? – You’re not Crazy. Stop the abuse.

IS HE/SHE ABUSIVE? - YOU'RE NOT CRAZY. STOP THE ABUSE. ARE YOU BEING ABUSED? YOU MAY NOT KNOW HOW TO TELL, BUT EVEN WORSE, YOU MAY BE THINKING THAT YOU ARE THE CRAZY ONE.

Are you being abused? You may not know how to tell, but even worse, you may be thinking that you are the crazy one.

Abusers work hard to distort our reality to make their reality feel safer.

So what is abuse? Is it someone who hits you emotionally or mentally hurts you to get what they want? Sometimes, mostly not! Ask yourself this: does your partner hurt you repeatedly in any of those ways? Does he or she do it to satisfy their own emotional needs, or because they’re out of control?

Does she or he use the situation to lock you in so you have to tolerate it, or make a huge sacrifice to get away? If you see this dynamic in your relationship, you are being abused. The hurt of abuse can come in many ways, including physical attacks, mental attacks, verbal attacks, sexual attacks, or contact with friends and family.

You’re not Crazy

For many of us, struggling to live with this kind of abusive partner, the first handhold we need to grasp is that we are not crazy. Abusive behaviour isn’t normal. It is caused by an underlying disorder.

Most often, the disorders are borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, or sociopath – technically called antisocial personality disorder. People who suffer from these disorders have extreme emotions, which lead them to actions that can range from puzzling to brutal. Living with them is painful and confusing.

Personality disorders are aptly named, because the minds of people who suffer from these disorders work differently than healthy people.

They Spin our Reality

Disordered people can’t deal with the reality of their behaviours. On some level they realise how hurtful they are, yet accepting this major flaw in themselves is just too painful. So disordered abusers spin our reality to make theirs less painful. One of the most common defence mechanism they use is projection.

In projection, a characteristic of themselves that they find just too painful to accept is projected onto us. And the most frequently projected characteristic is mental illness. “I’m not a narcissist. You’re the crazy one.” Another common and difficult defence mechanism is blame shifting. It’s your fault this happened because blah, blah blah blah…

After a while it becomes hard to distinguish what is real from what is being projected and what is being distorted. We begin to doubt our reality and question whether we’re the crazy ones, or whether our disordered SO’s (significant others) are really right about what they say.

The truth is, THEY’RE NOT RIGHT. But they feel better when they can get us to carry the burden of their illness and their behaviour.

What’s more, disordered people hide their problems very effectively. People with all of these personality disorders – narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, and antisocial personality disorder – have serious maladjustments in coping with life. Thus, they live in emotional turmoil.

They seek to present a very together appearance, hiding their disease from most people. It is only when we get into a close and private relationship with someone else these personality disorders that the abusive behaviour comes out. And because their lives are wracked with emotional turmoil, there is a lot of pent-up emotion that can be focused on us. Yet those around us don’t see it, causing us further confusion and pain.

Dealing with this situation is complex, and people need some idea of how bad it could get ” For most people, there are important obligations that have to be carefully thought about to move away. Because abuse is so damaging significant decisions have to be faced to be resolved in an even manner.

Because abusive partners constantly work to distort our perception of what is happening and what is right and wrong, until we doubt our own judgement so much we can’t make decisions the process of detaching to find safe space and to regain a sense of right and wrong, and searching to understand what we, as people, need in our lives can become very difficult.

Those who need it the most – the traumatized victims – are locked out by the jargon and the lack of practical advice. Recently, survivors and victims have taken matters into their own hands and have published their own books, replete with first hand experiences and tips.

It has to be known that Healing is not easy and will take time No matter the outcome. if getting professional help is Not a financial option, there are many web sites that can assist with self-help. local libraries Have books that can also assist on the journey to healing.