8 things to remember

8 things to remember

8 things to remember when going through tough times:

1. Everything can – and will – change
2. You’ve overcome challenges before

3. It’s a learning experience.
4. Not getting what you want can be a blessing.

5. Allow yourself to have some fun.
6. Being kind to yourself is the best medicine.

7. Other people’s negativity isn’t worth worrying about.
8. And there is always, always, always, something to be thankful for.

Please take care and have a good day. Wishing you health, peace and empowerment always.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻

Respecting yourself and living with dignity makes us independent.

When you are alone in the world, the pitfalls are huge. It is important to develop an understanding and appreciation of the underlying character traits of one’s true self.
Dignity and Personality

The most important thing is still the beauty of dignity and our personality in life.

When you are alone in the world, the pitfalls are huge. It is important to develop an understanding and appreciation of the underlying character traits of one’s true self, and most importantly making life choices and decisions from that authentic aspect of a person’s personality.

Respecting yourself and living with dignity makes us independent

Be more motivated to live a life of authenticity and personal integrity despite whatever anyone else thinks about us. Setting boundaries and parameters for life is the best description of self-respect.

Learn to say “no” to what is no longer emotionally, mentally, or financially healthy. Gaining self-respect is about learning your worth and knowing your value. It is important for making sensible decisions that impact life and the lives of others connected to us.

At the end of the day, self-respect starts with you but is designed to have better interpersonal relationships. It is not just a pronouncement but an amalgamation of credibility to challenge oneself and then feel pride that comes with the accomplishments. A person with self-respect treats others how they want to be treated, and command respect in everything they do while laying down the foundation of truthful existence.

A person may be disrespected, ignored or looked down upon. It can happen to any of us, but the difference is that a self-respecting person would not accept this, nor would they let it go without some discussion on the injustice. This applies to all relationships too, whether personal or professional.

In the end, a life lived with dignity, despite the obstacles and impediments, is a life well-lived

Please choose a course that will really serve your life well because without all this knowledge or knowing life will be really difficult and tough .

Please take care and have a good day. Wishing you health, peace and empowerment always.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻

When you first have children! Must read.

When you first have children they talk about the challenges of parenting….the struggles of a baby waking in the night,
the toddler who won’t stay in their bed, the cost of childcare, injuries from sports…

When you first have children they talk about the challenges of parenting….the struggles of a baby waking in the night,
the toddler who won’t stay in their bed, the cost of childcare, injuries from sports…
Young and in the madness

WHEN YOU FIRST HAVE CHILDREN! MUST READ.

Having to take off work to pick them up from school when they don’t feel well, helping them with homework, a messy house, the never ending laundry, the cost to buy school clothes, packing their lunches….

You watch their eyes light up on Christmas morning….and try to soak in the magic of those moments.

You coach them in sports, rushing to practices and ballgames…and take them all over the country to let them play the game they love…no matter how exhausting or expensive it becomes.

Life is just so busy that you rarely even stop to think what the end of those days look like. In fact, it’s not really even something you can wrap your mind around.

You go into it thinking that 18-20 years sounds like a long time….Then suddenly hours turn into days…days into months…and months into years.

That little person that used to crawl up next to you in bed and cuddle up to watch cartoons…suddenly becomes this young adult who hugs you in the hallway as they come and go.

And the chaos and laughter that used to echo throughout your home….gets filled with silence and solitude.

You’ve learned how to parent a child who needs you to care for and protect them….but have no clue how the whole “letting go” thing is supposed to work.

So you hold on as tight as you can…wondering how time passed so quickly…feeling guilty that you missed something….Because even though you had 20 years…..it just somehow doesn’t seem like it was enough.

You ask yourself so many questions…

Did you teach them the right lessons?
Did you read them enough books as a child?
Spend enough time playing with them?
How many school parties did you have to miss?
Do they really know how much you love them?
What could I have done better as a parent?

When it’s time for them to go, it all hits you like a ton of bricks.

And all you can do is pray….hope….and trust that God will protect them as they start to make their way into the world alone.

Parenting is by far the most amazing experience of your life….that at times leaves you exhilarated….while others leave you heartbroken.

But one thing is certain…..it’s never enough time!

So for all the parents with young children…whose days are spent trying to figure out how to make it through the madness…
Exhausted day in and day out…

Grown up

Soak It All In because being on the other side… Now they’re all grown up its lonely.

One day….all those crazy days full of cartoons, snuggles, sleep overs, Christmas morning magic, ballgames, practices and late night dinners…

All come to an end.

And you’re left hoping that you did enough right, so that when they spread their wings….

They’ll fly…enjoy it all.

Please take care and have a good day. Wishing you health, peace and empowerment always.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻 💙

Powerful words from Anthony Hopkins : must read.

POWERFUL WORDS FROM ANTHONY HOPKINS: MUST READ.
Anthony Hopkins

”Let go of people who aren’t ready to love you yet!

This is the hardest thing you’ll have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing: stop giving your love to those who aren’t ready to love you yet.


Stop hard conversations with people who don’t want to change.
Stop showing up for people who are indifferent to your presence.

Stop loving people who aren’t ready to love you.

I know your instincts do everything to win the good mercy of everyone around you, but it’s also the impulse that will steal your time, energy and mental, physical and spiritual health.

When you start manifesting yourself in your life, completely, with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to find you in this place of pure sincerity.

That doesn’t mean that you have to change who you are. That means you have to stop loving people who don’t want to love you yet.

When you are excluded, subtly offended, forgotten or easily ignored by people you give time to, you don’t do yourself any favour by allowing them your energy and your life.

The truth is that you’re not for everyone…

And that not everyone is for you…
That makes this world so special, when you find the few people you have friendship, love or a true relationship with…
You will know how valuable that is…
Because you have experienced what isn’t…
But the more time you spend trying to make you loved by someone who cant…
The more time you waste depriving the same connection…
There are billions of people on this planet, and many of them will end up with you, on their level, with their vibration, from where they stand…
But…

The smaller you stay, involved in the privacy of people who use you as a pillow, background option, a therapist and a strategy for their emotional healing…
More time you stay out of the community you wish for.

If you stop showing up, you might be less wanted…
If you stop trying, the relationship might stop…
If you stop texting, your phone stays dark for days and weeks…
Maybe if you stop loving someone, the love between you will dissolve…
That doesn’t mean you ruined a relationship!
That means all this relationship had was the energy that only you and you hire to keep it in the air.

It’s not love

That’s attachment.
That’s wanting to give a chance to those who don’t want it!
The most valuable and most important thing you have in your life is your energy.

Its not just your time because it’s limited…

It’s your energy!
What you give every day is what will become more and more in your life.
It’s the ones you give time and energy that will define your existence.

When you realize this, you start to understand why you are so impatient when you spend your time with people that don’t suit you, and in activities, places, situations that don’t suit you.

You’re starting to realize that the most important thing you can do for your life, for yourself and for everyone you know, protect your energy stronger than anything.
Turn your life into a safe sanctuary where only ” compatible ” people with you are allowed.

You are not responsible for saving people.

You are not responsible to convince them to be saved.
It’s not your job to exist for people and give them your life, little by little, moment after the moment!
Because if you feel bad or if you feel obliged; you are the root of all of this by your insisting, afraid they promise you the favours you won’t give them…
It’s your only fact to realize that you are the loved one of your destiny and to accept the love you think you deserve.


Decide you deserve a true friendship.
Wait then… just a minute…
And look how everything is starting to change…”

Anthony Hopkins ❤

Straightforward speaking people… What do you think!

Most people don't hate straight – forward people who tell it like it is calling a spade- a spade, when required, or when their opinion is asked.

Most people don’t hate straight – forward people who tell it like it is calling a spade- a spade, when required, or when their opinion is asked.

But people do dislike a certain kind of person who blurts everything out without any sense of tact or politeness – disregarding the scenario. There’s a time and place for everything. Also people in general also dislike people – who rush forward to put in their two cents – to make their opinions heard when it is neither required or necessary.

They are like ”I’mma goin’ to pitch in my two cents even though its unasked for” These includes irritating relatives and friends who interfere and make their opinion/disapproval on what you wear, who you date, who you’re friends with etc. These judgements and opinions should best be kept to themselves unless asked about it.

For example:

Person 1: Response when his/her friend tries out a new dress and asks if he/she looks fat in it, or if that outfit suits him/her. “Honestly I think that colour flatters you more – or I suggest that maybe you can consider wearing that outfit instead of this one – as it is a better fit.”

Person 2: ”Woah bro/girl you look soooo fat in it lol.”

Person 1: Is what you called straightforward. He/she gave an honest opinion when asked and also tactfully. Yes you can be straightforward, and polite. The two are not as mutually exclusive as you think.

Person 2: Whether or not they realize it – they are being a bully.

If you are number 1 person – awesome – most people do not hate you but in fact admire and envy your ability to call a spade a spade without coming across as offensive. The only people who hate you are people who cannot bear to listen to honest opinions – they asked for.

If you are person 2 – You buddy have a foot in the mouth problem. Learn to exercise some tact. Also not every damn statement/opnion that you think of has to be verbalized you know – its not as important as you think it is.

So I’d like to lay out a few pointers I’ve learned about speaking tactfully. This list isn’t all inclusive, but it certainly is a great place to start. I’ll start with five important parts of a meaningful conversation. 

5 Steps To A Meaningful Conversation

  • Listen.
    OK. So that’s not officially a way to talk, but it certainly is an important step in setting the foundation for when you do {talk}. Focus on what the other person is saying and stop your brain from coming up with the reasons why they are wrong or what you will say next.
  • Clarify.
    A tactful response is an informed response. According to Proverbs 29:20, only a fool spouts what he thinks before fully understanding what is at stake. Take the time to understand what’s being said BEFORE you share your own thoughts, ideas, or opinions. Here are two ways you can effectively clarify: (1)Ask clarifying questions. (2)Repeat back what was said in your own words.
  • Think.
    That seems obvious. It’s not. Too often we speak before we think. I have fallen into this trap more times than I can remember. Take the time to think through (a.)what has been said, (b.)what you think, and (c.)what you will say before you open your mouth to talk. Better an awkward silence than the alternative! 
  • Speak.
    Finally, you can have your say and speak your mind. But remember to be tactful in what you say and how you say it. I will talk more about how to be tactful in your response in my next post.
  • Ask.
    And you thought you were finished after saying what you think! Nope. Your final step is to ask a question. This is very important and is your ‘best friend’ in the whole process. By asking the right questions you can ensure that your listener(s) are also following the same process as you. In particular, they are listening, clarifying, and thinking. Here are a couple of examples of questions you can ask:

“Does what I am saying make sense to you?”

“Thoughts?”

“Questions?”

“What do you think?”

“Could you repeat back to me what you heard me say? I’m not sure I communicated it well or not.”

Well we all have to start somewhere obviously, sometimes offense just can’t be avoided, but certainly we can minimize the possibilities if we just use some forethought before we speak!