When you first have children! Must read.

When you first have children they talk about the challenges of parenting….the struggles of a baby waking in the night,
the toddler who won’t stay in their bed, the cost of childcare, injuries from sports…

When you first have children they talk about the challenges of parenting….the struggles of a baby waking in the night,
the toddler who won’t stay in their bed, the cost of childcare, injuries from sports…
Young and in the madness

WHEN YOU FIRST HAVE CHILDREN! MUST READ.

Having to take off work to pick them up from school when they don’t feel well, helping them with homework, a messy house, the never ending laundry, the cost to buy school clothes, packing their lunches….

You watch their eyes light up on Christmas morning….and try to soak in the magic of those moments.

You coach them in sports, rushing to practices and ballgames…and take them all over the country to let them play the game they love…no matter how exhausting or expensive it becomes.

Life is just so busy that you rarely even stop to think what the end of those days look like. In fact, it’s not really even something you can wrap your mind around.

You go into it thinking that 18-20 years sounds like a long time….Then suddenly hours turn into days…days into months…and months into years.

That little person that used to crawl up next to you in bed and cuddle up to watch cartoons…suddenly becomes this young adult who hugs you in the hallway as they come and go.

And the chaos and laughter that used to echo throughout your home….gets filled with silence and solitude.

You’ve learned how to parent a child who needs you to care for and protect them….but have no clue how the whole “letting go” thing is supposed to work.

So you hold on as tight as you can…wondering how time passed so quickly…feeling guilty that you missed something….Because even though you had 20 years…..it just somehow doesn’t seem like it was enough.

You ask yourself so many questions…

Did you teach them the right lessons?
Did you read them enough books as a child?
Spend enough time playing with them?
How many school parties did you have to miss?
Do they really know how much you love them?
What could I have done better as a parent?

When it’s time for them to go, it all hits you like a ton of bricks.

And all you can do is pray….hope….and trust that God will protect them as they start to make their way into the world alone.

Parenting is by far the most amazing experience of your life….that at times leaves you exhilarated….while others leave you heartbroken.

But one thing is certain…..it’s never enough time!

So for all the parents with young children…whose days are spent trying to figure out how to make it through the madness…
Exhausted day in and day out…

Grown up

Soak It All In because being on the other side… Now they’re all grown up its lonely.

One day….all those crazy days full of cartoons, snuggles, sleep overs, Christmas morning magic, ballgames, practices and late night dinners…

All come to an end.

And you’re left hoping that you did enough right, so that when they spread their wings….

They’ll fly…enjoy it all.

Please take care and have a good day. Wishing you health, peace and empowerment always.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻 💙

Powerful words from Anthony Hopkins : must read.

POWERFUL WORDS FROM ANTHONY HOPKINS: MUST READ.
Anthony Hopkins

”Let go of people who aren’t ready to love you yet!

This is the hardest thing you’ll have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing: stop giving your love to those who aren’t ready to love you yet.


Stop hard conversations with people who don’t want to change.
Stop showing up for people who are indifferent to your presence.

Stop loving people who aren’t ready to love you.

I know your instincts do everything to win the good mercy of everyone around you, but it’s also the impulse that will steal your time, energy and mental, physical and spiritual health.

When you start manifesting yourself in your life, completely, with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to find you in this place of pure sincerity.

That doesn’t mean that you have to change who you are. That means you have to stop loving people who don’t want to love you yet.

When you are excluded, subtly offended, forgotten or easily ignored by people you give time to, you don’t do yourself any favour by allowing them your energy and your life.

The truth is that you’re not for everyone…

And that not everyone is for you…
That makes this world so special, when you find the few people you have friendship, love or a true relationship with…
You will know how valuable that is…
Because you have experienced what isn’t…
But the more time you spend trying to make you loved by someone who cant…
The more time you waste depriving the same connection…
There are billions of people on this planet, and many of them will end up with you, on their level, with their vibration, from where they stand…
But…

The smaller you stay, involved in the privacy of people who use you as a pillow, background option, a therapist and a strategy for their emotional healing…
More time you stay out of the community you wish for.

If you stop showing up, you might be less wanted…
If you stop trying, the relationship might stop…
If you stop texting, your phone stays dark for days and weeks…
Maybe if you stop loving someone, the love between you will dissolve…
That doesn’t mean you ruined a relationship!
That means all this relationship had was the energy that only you and you hire to keep it in the air.

It’s not love

That’s attachment.
That’s wanting to give a chance to those who don’t want it!
The most valuable and most important thing you have in your life is your energy.

Its not just your time because it’s limited…

It’s your energy!
What you give every day is what will become more and more in your life.
It’s the ones you give time and energy that will define your existence.

When you realize this, you start to understand why you are so impatient when you spend your time with people that don’t suit you, and in activities, places, situations that don’t suit you.

You’re starting to realize that the most important thing you can do for your life, for yourself and for everyone you know, protect your energy stronger than anything.
Turn your life into a safe sanctuary where only ” compatible ” people with you are allowed.

You are not responsible for saving people.

You are not responsible to convince them to be saved.
It’s not your job to exist for people and give them your life, little by little, moment after the moment!
Because if you feel bad or if you feel obliged; you are the root of all of this by your insisting, afraid they promise you the favours you won’t give them…
It’s your only fact to realize that you are the loved one of your destiny and to accept the love you think you deserve.


Decide you deserve a true friendship.
Wait then… just a minute…
And look how everything is starting to change…”

Anthony Hopkins ❤

For all the ladies to remember & men to understand

When God created woman he was working late on the 6th day…….
An angel came by and asked."
Woman

For all the ladies to remember & men to understand

When God created woman he was working late on the 6th day…….
An angel came by and asked.”

Why spend so much time on her?”
The lord answered. “Have you seen all the specifications I have to meet to shape her?” She must function in all kinds of situations, She must be able to embrace several kids at the same time,
Have a hug that can heal anything from a bruised knee to a broken heart,
She must do all this with only two hands, “She cures herself when sick and can work 18 hours a day”

THE ANGEL was impressed “Just two hands…..impossible! And this is the standard model?”

The Angel came closer and touched the woman

“But you have made her so soft, Lord”.
“She is soft”, said the Lord, But I have made her strong.

You can’t imagine what she can endure and overcome.”
Can she think?” The Angel asked…
The Lord answered. “Not only can she think, she can reason and negotiate.”

The Angel touched her cheeks….
“Lord, it seems this creation is leaking! You have put too many burdens on her”
“She is not leaking…it is a tear” The Lord corrected the Angel…
“What’s it for?” Asked the Angel….. .
The Lord said.

“Tears are her way of expressing her grief, her doubts, her love, her loneliness, her suffering and her pride.”…This made a big impression on the Angel, “Lord, you are a genius. You thought of everything”.
A woman is indeed marvellous”
Lord said. “Indeed she is”.

She has strength that amazes a man.
She can handle trouble and carry heavy burdens.
She holds happiness, love and opinions.
She smiles when she feels like screaming.

She sings when she feels like crying, cries when happy and laughs when afraid.

She fights for what she believes in.
Her love is unconditional.
Her heart is broken when a next-of-kin or a friend dies but she finds strength to get on with life.

The Angel asked: “So she is a perfect being?”
The lord replied: “No.

She has just one drawback
She often forgets what she is worth.

Have a good day. Wishing you health, peace and empowerment always.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻 💙

NOTE TO SELF… GET YOURSELF BACK.

NOTE TO SELF... GET YOURSELF BACK.. ~ Because you didn't want to lose him, you lost yourself in the process.
Self-esteem

Get yourself back!

“Because you didn’t want to lose him, you lost yourself in the process”.

You became a girl who kept being mistreated and you formed a habit of saying “I’m used to it”.

You became a girl who kept being unappreciated and you begin to tell yourself “it’s okay”.

You became a girl who kept being undervalued and you learned how to say “I’m fine”.

You became a girl who kept being put last and you naturally reacted with “it’s whatever”.

You became a girl who kept being taken for granted and you dealt with it by repeating “everything’s ok”.

You became a girl who kept being unhappy and you regularly told people “I’m going to be fine” But you know deep down your NOT😢…..

And if you’re reading this right now, then you need to understand that no guy is worth losing yourself for, no guy is worth suffering for at the expense of YOU… your happiness!

“We all go through hard times in life. It’s a part of being alive and it’s the reality we all have to deal with.

There are times we forget our value as a person because we are so blinded with these thoughts of loneliness, emptiness and ego.

Somewhere along the road we become numbed with all the frustrations and dissatisfaction.

But life itself isn’t always about darkness and sadness, Life is also filled with colours and that makes it beautiful. Along this path of darkness there’s always light waiting to be seen by our daunted hearts.

Our heart is gifted to see this light.

It may be hiding behind those circumstances that we encounter; in a stranger we just met at an unexpected place; a family who has been always there but you just ignored because of your imperfect relationship with them; because you have given it your all to the very person that is killing your soul and your life!

It might be a long time friend you have or a friend you just met or a friend that is waiting just round the corner if you freed yorself.

Open your heart and you will see how blessed you are to have them all in your life. STOP GIVING it your all to ONE PERSON that don’t DESERVE you.

Just remember Sometimes the people in your life are there for a reason they are the light that shines your path in some dark phases of life. Don’t lose them and don’t lose hope…”

As you grow and evolve, it might feel like you’re losing your mind. But you’re just losing the old mindset that was
holding you back. But it’s all normal

Don’t Take Anything Personally that’s just down right cruel anymore! What ever they says and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.

When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Also if you have children please 🙏 think about them and I mean really think hard! So many broken parents are building broken children. Don’t let your mess become the foundation of your child’s life. Break the cycle you’ve got this.🙏

I was terribly mistreated. Children raised in this toxic environment will keep the abuse or being abused going generation after generation.

Get yourself back!

Let the old self go and focus on YOU! GET YOURSELF BACK GIRL. 🙏💙 before it’s too late.

The people who care for you can see it plain as day! You should away listen when more than 2 people have the same concerns only you can save yourself. Please take care in all of your endeavours and stop giving up your power of self!

P.S. This post applies to both sexes. A male or Female can be the abuser. Abuse doesn’t have a gender.

Have a good day. Wishing you health, peace and empowerment always.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻 💙

To forgive takes strength to set aside what is often justifiable anger.

To forgive really is divine. It takes strength to set aside what is often justifiable anger. It’s much easier to hold a grudge. Yet when we make the choice and allow ourselves to put aside that anger and to forgive those who have harmed us, we actually do ourselves a great service. Making the conscious decision to let go of pain is the beginning of healing. But doing so is challenging because it is easy to become attached to seeing oneself as a victim and to hold onto resentment, even when the person who has harmed us is genuinely sorry. Forgiving someone is both one of the most difficult and one of the most spiritually rewarding choices we can make.            

While forgiveness is a noble act, expressing true forgiveness is empowering because it helps us to stop feeling like victims and to dispel our own suffering at having been wronged. Our levels of anger and hostility decreases while our capacity to love increases.We are better able to control our anger and we have an enhanced capacity to trust. We are freed from the control of past events, which can help us to stop repeating negative behaviour. Both our physical and mental health improves. Though many people feel forgiveness is something that must be asked for or earned by another, forgiveness is actually a gift you give to yourself…..  

Have a good day. Wishing you health, peace and empowerment.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏💙

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