Trying not to fall apart.

Today you could be standing next to someone who is trying their best not to fall apart, so whatever you do today, do it with kindness in your heart.

Today you could be standing next to someone who is trying their best not to fall apart, so whatever you do today, do it with kindness in your heart.

Practice random acts of kindness everyday because….

A small act of kindness could mean the whole world to someone, anyone! “I know it always does to me”

Please just be gentle to people until you no longer can be… Meaning because of their wrong doings or actions 🎬 then that’s a different story.

Whatever day it is always remind yourself that you did the best you could…..Have a good day Wishing you health, peace and empowerment.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻💙



Chain’s of Habits.

OUR HABITS, OUR DAILY BEHAVIOURS. Determine how we view ourselves. How we view ourselves directly effects the choices we make.
Habit

Our habits, our daily behaviours

Our Habits, Our Daily Behaviour determine how we view ourselves. How we view ourselves directly effects the choices we make.

“If I view myself as a runner, I run. If I view myself as a fighter, I fight. If I view myself as someone who never follows through, I quit. If I view myself as someone who finds joy in everything, I look for joy. If I view myself as a success, I always look for solutions and follow through with determination and perseverance… quitting is not an option”.

The choices we make daily

determine the quality of our lives. When you make what seems like a harmless decision to repeat an action, thought, words or behaviour, you are laying the solid foundation that habits are built on.

The power in habits is absolutely life altering and… we have the ability to choose our habits.

Never underestimate the power in the little choices you repeatedly make,

It is here that your potential for joy, health and happiness lies. Unleash your true potential, own your power and examine your choices.

Have a good day Wishing you health, peace and empowerment.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻💙

LOneliness

I had spent an hour in the bank with my dad, as he had to transfer some money. I couldn't resist myself & asked... ''Dad, why don't we activate your internet banking?''
Lonely man

I had spent an hour in the bank with my dad, as he had to transfer some money. I couldn’t resist myself & asked…

”Dad, why don’t we activate your internet banking?”

”Why would I do that?” He asked…

”Well, then you wont have to spend an hour here for things like transfer.

You can even do your shopping online. Everything will be so easy!”

I was so excited about initiating him into the world of Net banking.

He asked ”If I do that, I wont have to step out of the house?

”Yes, yes”! I said. I told him how even grocery can be delivered at door now and how amazon delivers everything!

His answer left me tongue-tied.

He said ”Since I entered this bank today, I have met four of my friends, I have chatted a while with the staff who know me very well by now.

You know I am alone…this is the company that I need. I like to get ready and come to the bank. I have enough time, it is the physical touch that I crave.

Two years back I got sick, The store owner from whom I buy fruits, came to see me and sat by my bedside and cried.

When your Mom fell down few days back while on her morning walk. Our local grocer saw her and immediately got his car to rush her home as he knows where I live.

Would I have that ‘human’ touch if everything became online?

Why would I want everything delivered to me and force me to interact with just my computer?

I like to know the person that I’m dealing with and not just the ‘seller’. It creates bonds of Relationships.

Does Amazon deliver all this as well?”’

Technology isn’t life..
Spend time with people .. Not with devices.

I hope this article serves your mind well  before you take a break from your device 👀🤭

Have a good day Wishing you health, peace and empowerment.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻💙

Is He/She Abusive? – You’re not Crazy. Stop the abuse.

IS HE/SHE ABUSIVE? - YOU'RE NOT CRAZY. STOP THE ABUSE. ARE YOU BEING ABUSED? YOU MAY NOT KNOW HOW TO TELL, BUT EVEN WORSE, YOU MAY BE THINKING THAT YOU ARE THE CRAZY ONE.

Are you being abused? You may not know how to tell, but even worse, you may be thinking that you are the crazy one.

Abusers work hard to distort our reality to make their reality feel safer.

So what is abuse? Is it someone who hits you emotionally or mentally hurts you to get what they want? Sometimes, mostly not! Ask yourself this: does your partner hurt you repeatedly in any of those ways? Does he or she do it to satisfy their own emotional needs, or because they’re out of control?

Does she or he use the situation to lock you in so you have to tolerate it, or make a huge sacrifice to get away? If you see this dynamic in your relationship, you are being abused. The hurt of abuse can come in many ways, including physical attacks, mental attacks, verbal attacks, sexual attacks, or contact with friends and family.

You’re not Crazy

For many of us, struggling to live with this kind of abusive partner, the first handhold we need to grasp is that we are not crazy. Abusive behaviour isn’t normal. It is caused by an underlying disorder.

Most often, the disorders are borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, or sociopath – technically called antisocial personality disorder. People who suffer from these disorders have extreme emotions, which lead them to actions that can range from puzzling to brutal. Living with them is painful and confusing.

Personality disorders are aptly named, because the minds of people who suffer from these disorders work differently than healthy people.

They Spin our Reality

Disordered people can’t deal with the reality of their behaviours. On some level they realise how hurtful they are, yet accepting this major flaw in themselves is just too painful. So disordered abusers spin our reality to make theirs less painful. One of the most common defence mechanism they use is projection.

In projection, a characteristic of themselves that they find just too painful to accept is projected onto us. And the most frequently projected characteristic is mental illness. “I’m not a narcissist. You’re the crazy one.” Another common and difficult defence mechanism is blame shifting. It’s your fault this happened because blah, blah blah blah…

After a while it becomes hard to distinguish what is real from what is being projected and what is being distorted. We begin to doubt our reality and question whether we’re the crazy ones, or whether our disordered SO’s (significant others) are really right about what they say.

The truth is, THEY’RE NOT RIGHT. But they feel better when they can get us to carry the burden of their illness and their behaviour.

What’s more, disordered people hide their problems very effectively. People with all of these personality disorders – narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, and antisocial personality disorder – have serious maladjustments in coping with life. Thus, they live in emotional turmoil.

They seek to present a very together appearance, hiding their disease from most people. It is only when we get into a close and private relationship with someone else these personality disorders that the abusive behaviour comes out. And because their lives are wracked with emotional turmoil, there is a lot of pent-up emotion that can be focused on us. Yet those around us don’t see it, causing us further confusion and pain.

Dealing with this situation is complex, and people need some idea of how bad it could get ” For most people, there are important obligations that have to be carefully thought about to move away. Because abuse is so damaging significant decisions have to be faced to be resolved in an even manner.

Because abusive partners constantly work to distort our perception of what is happening and what is right and wrong, until we doubt our own judgement so much we can’t make decisions the process of detaching to find safe space and to regain a sense of right and wrong, and searching to understand what we, as people, need in our lives can become very difficult.

Those who need it the most – the traumatized victims – are locked out by the jargon and the lack of practical advice. Recently, survivors and victims have taken matters into their own hands and have published their own books, replete with first hand experiences and tips.

It has to be known that Healing is not easy and will take time No matter the outcome. if getting professional help is Not a financial option, there are many web sites that can assist with self-help. local libraries Have books that can also assist on the journey to healing.

Sitting with your pain and knowing your demons!

It is difficult to heal when you are running from your wounds

There is power in being self aware, in sitting with your pain and in knowing your demons, each one by name.

I’m working on myself to become a professional coach and professional mentor, after reflecting a lot, facing my dark side, accepting my wounds, I can tell now and review more consciously that it is because of these wounds that I feel urged to become such a coach – mentor.

It actually feels like becoming the healer I always looked for my recovering … embrace it – why? Because now I know it’s because I had to overcome my traumas and make peace with them first before I could move on.

Have a good day Wishing you health, peace and empowerment.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻💙

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Sometimes shit happens, in order to make room for shifts to happen!

Sometime when shit happens, it is a blessing in disguise.

If we were to look at every adversity as if it held a blessing for us to seek and find… we may be a lot less overwhelmed by the circumstances and excited for the growth.

(Treat it like a treasure hunt! 😁)


It is our attitude or perception at the beginning of an issue that has the greatest impact on the outcome.
Mindset and perception are the most powerful tools for success, and we all have equal access!

Have a good day Wishing you health, peace and empowerment.
Xxx ~J.W~ 🙏🏻💙

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