21 Tips For Staying Positive in a Negative World

Be Positive!
“If you look for the positive things in  life; you will find them.” Author  Unknown

I recently heard that 76% of all we tell ourselves in a day is negative and  that 84% of all we hear in a day is negative. That’s a lot of negative going  into our minds. I have also heard that for every negative we tell ourselves or  others, it takes nine positives to recover the damage.

stay-positiveWouldn’t we be better off just putting more positive things into our minds?  If we do that we can avoid the mind clutter of negative thoughts. And then live  in perfect harmony – yeah!

It’s easier said than done. I know how hard it is to change my thoughts and  to focus on being positive.  My kids often tell me that I can’t be crabby  because I am a motivational speaker.  Maybe they are right but I am still a mom and moms can get crabby. Being a mom  is tough and it can be full of negatives at times. Kids get sick, they complain,  we nag them to do their chores and the housework is never done. It’s easy to get  crabby and feel negative. Yet we have a choice – we can choose to be  positive.

I recently had the opportunity to practice what I preach. And I failed  miserably. I know I am a motivational speaker, but I am human too.

I had a bad day. I had been feeling lots of stress financially and with all  the busyness that I had let creep into our life. I was overwhelmed, tired and  hungry when I came home from work. That combination is dangerous for me. And yet  I did nothing about it. I just focused on the negatives and let the feeling  grow. I walked in the door and was greeted by our extremely happy golden  retriever, who I quickly dismissed. Well the more I dismissed her the more  attention she wanted. And then I snapped right as the kids were coming into the  room. I had a meltdown, yelling at the dog, yelling at the kids for telling me  not to yell at the dog and then storming up to my room. It was not a pretty  scene.

I went to my room and felt horrible. I had let all the negative things pile  up all day long and I had taken it out on the ones I love the most. Our negative  thoughts often do that to us, they come out towards the ones we love the most,  the ones who had nothing to do with our negativity.


I had to go downstairs and apologize to my kids and to the dog. I told them I  was sorry and that I have made a decision to change my attitude.

A friend of mine gave me a lizard in a cage years ago. She told me that when  we focus on the negative or we are stressed or angry, we begin to think like a  lizard. She told me to keep my lizard in its cage – in others words, she told me  to keep my negativity, stress and anger under control so the lizard does not get  out.

21 Ways to Be Positive!

Smile. A smile is a simple but powerful tool. It  automatically makes us fee
better and touches the people around us. Are you  smiling now?

Have positive reminders. Fill your mind and home with  positive reminders and motivational products. Choose to surround yourself with  things that remind you to be positive.

Talk nice. Remove destructive language, negative talk,  swearing or complaining. These things rob our joy in life. Speak positively or  do not talk at all.

Pay for your bad words. We pay our vacation jar $5 for every  swear word someone says. Family members hold one another accountable. Find some  way to hold yourself accountable for destructive language.

Give me three now! For every negative thing you say about  yourself, you must say three positives out loud. Again, family members should  hold one another accountable.

Stop gossip. Let others be who they are. Concentrate on only  speaking positively about other people.

Be honest. When we tell the truth we never have to remember  what we said to whom. Honesty may be hard in the moment, but you will definitely  sleep better at night.

There is nothing wrong. Stop telling yourself something is  wrong. There is nothing wrong with your life. When we live in the moment and  accept what is, we stop creating the idea that something is always wrong. Live  life accepting what is.

Notice life. By noticing your thoughts without judgments  attached, you are free to just experience life. We do not have to fix or change  everything – sometimes we just need to notice.

Enjoy the journey. Life is not a race – we don’t have to get  there today. In fact, there is no “there.” Our job is to simply enjoy the  process.

Don’t engage in negative conversation. It’s okay to just  walk away without correcting or explaining. Just simply excuse yourself.

Pay attention to your positive thoughts. What are they  saying? What do they tell you about yourself?

Choose positive people. Surround yourself with people who  build you up. Get rid of the “wet blankets” in your life.

Put on your attitude. Choose which attitude to wear prior to getting dressed in the morning. Sometimes  having a good day starts by telling yourself that you will have a good day.

You have permission. Give yourself permission to be positive  and enjoy life. Being positive is much more fun than complaining all the time.

Plan ahead. Practice and plan what you will say ahead of  time when others engage in negativity. Knowing what to say before hand will help  you say what you need to say and to stay true to being positive.

Leave on a happy note. End phone calls, e-mails and letters with a positive message.  Always leave meetings on an upbeat note. This keeps you from dwelling on the  negatives.

Choose carefully. Be selective with your words. Once we  speak word, we can not take them back. Speak less and listen more.

Practice. Try saying positive things to strangers. Try out  being positive with people you’ll never see again. Try new phrases and take the  opportunity to speak positively with each new person you meet.

Study positive people. Watch how they interact with the  world. Interview them when possible. Look for ways you can incorporate their  techniques into your life.

Down days will come. Realize you will have down days. Plan  for them and practice good self-care on days that you feel down. Then remind  yourself that life will swing back and you’ll be up again.

Michelle  Neujahr –    About the Author:

Michelle Neujahr, Motivational Speaker & Small Business Consultant Michelle Neujahr provides motivational keynotes, in-house training seminars and  small business consulting services to organizations ready to take their business  to the next level. She delivers high energy, dynamic presentations guaranteed to  reinvigorate your organization and revive your people. With more than a decade  of experience as a motivational speaker, Michelle has given over 1,000  presentations to audiences across the country. In addition Michelle has owned  three businesses, worked in the corporate world as Director of Sales &  Marketing, is an author and serves as an adjunct business professor.  http://www.renovateyourorg.com

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Joanne Wellington

Joanne is: Author, intuitive and founder of a network of sites and blogs dedicated to helping you define, refine and achieve your grandest dreams! For empowering tips, articles and resources, visit https://joannewellington.com/ or http://medium2spirit.com/ and begin your transformation today! Joanne always says...I don't care how much money you make, what color your skin is, where you live, what you drive, whether you're gay or straight, fat or thin, tall or short, beautiful or average. If you're my friend, I love you dearly, and that is ALL that counts! Positivity is free for the taking, inspiration awaits only to be recognized and confidence is always encouraged, her mission at medium2spirit, World of Inspiration is to inform, to inspire and empower people to be their best, both personally and professionally.

9 thoughts on “21 Tips For Staying Positive in a Negative World

  1. This was really a great article. Staying positive is my most major problems in life right now. My husband and I have been homeless for four years. We have lived on the street, mostly slept in some of the most horrible shelters, slept on a train at night, and in an old church. We have lost our jobs in this bad economy, and we got jobs while homeless and were laid off again. I’ve been just waiting for us to get an opportunity to get out. We are both educated people. I try to stay positive in hopes of getting out but I have vocalized suicide many many times. Everytime I get positive I go negative again. It’s easier said than done. I can honestly say that I don’t know if I will ever be positive while in this situation. I don’t know how to change it. I guess its like having a smoke addiction. You can’t quit if you don’t get strength from God. I’ve been putting job resumes out non stop. But if you don’t have an address, you can’t get a job. The system has thrown us out. I’m not going to stay positive and be homeless for the rest of my life. I’ll kill myself first. So what should I do because I’m stuck. Negativity is all around us each day. Churches and staff people and society treat us like dirt on a daily basis. But that doesn’t bother me. What keeps me unhappy is the fact that we aren’t out of this situation yet. I have to sneak sometimes just to get a shower. Where do you begin on staying positive while you’re fighting to get out of it but your situation isn’t changing? I’m unhappy about 80% of the time and functioning about 20%.


    1. Hi there.
      I read your comment and immediately felt concerned for you and your husband’s situation. I know that you posted this comment a long time ago, but it really felt called to respond to what you said. I pray that you and your husband both are doing much better emotionally, physically, and mentally. I pray that you both have a house now, or at least an apartment. I have never felt the hardship that you were facing when you commented, but I thank you for opening my eyes. I have seen my life and felt so negative because “I’ve got it bad” which I honestly don’t. It’s a message that Americans feel is a necessary phrase that applies to each one of them more than the next person. “I’m poor because I don’t have an iPhone. I’m stuck with a stupid old android or Nokia.” Or, “I’m poor because I don’t make a big income and have a tiny house.” Or even, “I’m poor because I’m not married and everyone else is.” “I’m poor because I have been orphaned.”
      In a world of poor circumstances, who’s to say which is worst? Does there even have to be one? Aren’t they all bad enough?
      I always thought that because of the hardships my family has struggled through that I was the poor one. But you have truly opened my eyes. I don’t know if it helps you at all, but God has used you to not only refresh my faith, but give me a positive outlook in my life. I have never lost my house, so I am blessed by God. There are a million things that could have happened resulting in an awful, poverty stricken, mentally abusive, and spiritually starving lifestyles.
      Please, if you ever get some notification about my reply to this comment, have you and your husband secured jobs in this time? My family and I will be praying for you daily.

      Thank you, so much, for this great reminder.


    2. Sorry you are having such issues on getting a job or having a place to live and sad your church or other places treat you poorly, they too may be living pay check to pay check and they wish their church could give you a hand out but it’s all gone and they feel angry…I don’t know. I just find that someone as articulate as you seem to be, has skills and knowledge to be able to make a living if they want to do so. If you have a computer or access to one, as you apparently do here, as you posted, but no home address, why not use the library address? Why not use a friends address? Why not use a home that is abandon? IF having an address is the ONLY reason you don’t have a job, then find a way to get an address and a new resume. What I see are many people who have been raised well enough to make a living and survive, but it’s easier to make excuses instead of finding solutions.


  2. Great article Joanne. We all have ups and downs. The trick is giving us a break when not feeling so good. We must forgive ourselves for the negative thoughts and actions we take. The world can be Heaven or Hell, it is up to us to choose.


  3. Great article! I will definitely be trying to live by these standards! Thank you so much for writing this 🙂


  4. the words are inspiring, this is a good way to live a life because dwelling in the past doesn’t bring about solution.


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