“Life is not fair!” Have you ever heard that comment before? Have you ever said that yourself? Is it normal to sometimes feel that way? I would dare to say that very few people have never felt that way. However, because we feel a certain way about something, does that mean it is true?
Let us examine the key words in this statement, namely “life” and “fair”. We glibly use the word “life” but do we understand what it really means? What is life? Most people understand that to mean “my life”, that which I experience on a daily basis, for which many blame circumstances outside of themselves. For many, life happens to them, like an event that they have little or no control over. Many experience a sense of helplessness, being a victim to life. However, “my life” or in a truer sense, my “life situation” or “life experience” is only a part of the equation of what life really is.
It is important to understand that reality (that which is) consists of more than one dimension. There are two dimensions to reality, making life dual dimensional. Firstly there is objective reality, that which is outside of myself, determined by immutable universal laws and principles, which in turn are determined by God/Infinite Being/Universal Consciousness/Creative Energy or whatever terminology you wish to use. I have no control over objective reality but can only submit to and apply the universal laws and principles, which contain inherent reward for their observance and application or inherent punishment for their violation, and that in turn determine the outcomes of my reality.
Secondly, there is subjective reality, which essentially is my life situation or my life experience. As much as objective reality is determined by immutable universal laws and principles outside of my control, subjective reality, my life situation and life experience, is determined by my level of understanding and application of the universal laws and principles, which is within my control. As mentioned earlier, many people feel out of control of and a victim to their subjective reality. However, could it be that I am more responsible for and in control of my life situation or life experience than what I have been conditioned to believe
Consider the above for a moment. If it is true that objective reality is determined by immutable universal laws and principles and that subjective reality is determined by my application of these laws and principles, does that mean that subjective reality is created by me? Does that mean that there is then no real victim? Can I then still say that life is unfair? What if I did not know that these laws and principles existed, much less knew how to apply them correctly? What if I did not know that I was influencing subjective reality?
Let us consider the questions above. It is important to understand that ignorance of a law does not nullify the law. Whether or not I am ware of a law, violating it will still lead to specific consequences. The biblical statement, “My people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge” implies that ignorance is never an excuse. Realistically speaking, the only reason for ignorance is not taking the time gain the information. Information and knowledge are more readily available now than ever before. The same biblical principle regarding ignorance implies that ignorance is the result of a rejection of knowledge. The more I take responsibility for acquiring the knowledge I need, the less I will suffer the consequences of violating the universal laws and principles. The result will be experiencing more of the benefits of correctly applying these laws and principles.
Another question may be, “What about circumstances, situations and events that are outside of my control, that were not directly caused by me?” At the risk of opening up a can of worms and eliciting violent reactions, there are those that believe that, if not directly created by us, we still attract every circumstance, situation or event in our lives. Safe to say for now, it is important to understand that whatever I encounter in my life, I still have the power as to how I react or respond. Even in these instances there are specific universal laws and principles that will determine the outcomes or effects of these on my subjective reality. Either way, I am still responsible, if not for what happens, then the way in which I experience what happens in my life. Ultimately, the way I think and consequently feel about what happens in my life and the value I ascribe, will determine the long-term impact, positive or negative.
The million dollar question at this stage must be, “What on earth are these universal laws and principles? How do I apply them?” The next article will deal with some of the most fundamental laws and principles that have the greatest impact on our lives. For now, develop the awareness and understanding that in reality our lives are not simply a series of random and capricious events, but more a practice, for which we need to take greater responsibility.
John A. Smith– About the Author:
I am a public speaker and teacher as well as mentor in the field of recovery and personal development. I can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org. Website: http//www.ttk.co.za/