Jealousy can ruin your friendships, work relationships, and even your most intimate relationships. Jealousy often stems from insecurity and low self esteem. If you find yourself becoming jealous in many of your relationships, you might want to seek professional help to find out the root of the problem.
Jealousy is a road of feeling betrayed ,full of anger and having a need for revenge that will get you nowhere fast …”self torture”
Women are more likely to have issues with jealousy than men, but both sexes are known to suffer from it. For women, the feelings of jealousy are often a reflection of how they see themselves compared to other women. If you think another woman is prettier, sexier, and can talk to men easier, you may become jealous of what she has to offer.
The first step in overcoming jealousy is becoming aware of it. Write down what triggers your times of jealousy. Take a look at that list. Look for a common theme of situations and individuals who are on your list. It can be difficult, boy you are going to have to ask yourself some difficult questions about why you feel jealous. Avoiding feelings of jealousy allows the fire to continue while dealing with them puts the fire out.
Seeking the help of a counselor is a great way to help you work through your jealousy. They will help you identify the underlying factors as well as provide you with assignments to make behavioral changes to help you resolve those factors. You will need to improve your relationship with yourself before you are able to improve your relationship with others.
Perception plays a large role in jealous. For example you may be jealous that your best friend has found a new friend she spends a lot of time with. You can perceive this as your friend not wanting to be with you as much and think terrible things about the other person. In reality, your friend is just opening her circle wider. You can initiate the idea of the three of you doing something together. You may discover this other person to be a great person, and thus forge a new friendship that involves the three of you.
“You will not be punished for your anger; you will be punished “by “your anger.”- Buddha
Overcoming jealousy isn’t always easy. It involves addressing the issue head on. Be honest with yourself and with those around you rather than pretending the feelings don’t exist. Jealousy can leave you drained and angry. It takes a lot more energy to deal with jealousy than it does to let it continue to rage out of control.