Each time that someone inflicts physical or emotional pain upon us there is usually a natural reaction to attack back. While this can give some much needed satisfaction, it is not an open and shut case.
There are different kinds of hurt – harsh or mild, intentional or accidental, apparently justified or not. Sometimes the perpetrator is emotionally ill in someway or extremely stressed threw self torture and may be unaware of the seriousness of the incident, perhaps feeling very much worse than you do. Imagine that the positions are switched for a different perspective on the situation.
It is worth considering the aftermath of revenge. How do you feel now, better or worse? How does the other person feel? Was your reaction too strong or harmful? Perhaps you feel bad and regret it altogether? Could a little discussion have avoided the incident as that is all it takes?
“To be wronged or robbed is nothing unless you continue to remember it.”
It may seem very stupid to turn the other cheek when we have been hurt, and often it is. However, we should review the situation and consider the facts and effects. Who is being harmed by our anger and retaliation?
Every blaming thought you hold is an obstacle—an obstacle to no success. Think for a moment of someone you may be blaming right now. This person could be a parent, one of your children, your spouse or partner, a neighbour, your boss, or your employee. Think about how is this obstacle going to effect the rest of the surrounding people most often it’s the children that have to suffer for instants because their mum or dad are being hurt, all should be taken in to consideration . We cause ourselves more grief when we try to get even, isn’t this another reason to at least review our actions?
“He who seeks revenge should remember to dig two graves.” – Chinese proverb
- Developing Your Inner Adult ~ Moving Beyond Blaming (mediumsworld.wordpress.com)