“I WISH YOU ENOUGH!”
Recently, I overheard a Mother and Daughter in their last moments together at the airport as the Daughter’s departure had been announced. Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the Mother said:
“I love you and I wish you enough.
“The Daughter replied, “Mom, our life together has been more than enough.
Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Mom.” They kissed and the Daughter left. The Mother walked over to the window where I sat. Standing there, I could see she wanted and needed to cry.
I tried not to intrude on her privacy but she welcomed me in by asking, “Did you ever say Good-Bye to someone knowing it would be forever?” “Yes, I have,” I replied.
“Forgive me for asking but why is this a forever Good-bye?
“I am old and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is the next trip back will be for my funeral,” she said.
When you were saying Good-Bye, I heard you say, “I wish you enough.” May I ask what that means?
She began to smile. “That’s a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to all of us.” She paused a moment and looked up as if
trying to remember it in detail and she smiled even more.
“When we said ‘I wish you enough ‘ we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them”. Then turning toward me, she shared the following, reciting it from memory,
“I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough hello’s to get you through the final good-bye’s.
She then began to cry and walked away.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person. An hour to appreciate them. A day to love them. And an entire life to forget them.
The truth is we outgrow those who don’t appreciate us.
Those who are okay with our absence.
Those who allow the distance between us and them to grow.
We outgrow those who make us feel like we’re replaceable.
The truth is we outgrow those who aren’t genuine with us.
Those who say things they don’t mean.
Those who talk the talk but can’t walk the walk when we need them beside us.
Those who only like a certain side of us but don’t want to accept all other sides.
Those who don’t care about our wants and needs because they’re too busy focusing on their own.
We outgrow those who make us feel like we’re not worth their time or effort.
Those who are capable of giving so much more but choose to be stingy with us.
Those who put us last on their list of properties.
We outgrow those who are lazy with us.
Those who take two steps backward every time we move one step forward.
The truth is we reach a point where we know who we are, what we want and what we deserve and we’re not willing to go back to selling ourselves short again.
We’re not willing to repeat the same vicious cycle of handing out our hearts to those who don’t know how to catch them.
The truth is we reach a point where our self-love trumps any other love.
We choose ourselves even when people don’t choose us.
The truth is we outgrow those who show us that they’re not invested.
That they don’t want to try.
We outgrow those who treat us like a pit stop until they find what they’re looking for.
We outgrow those who don’t make us feel like they’re glad they found us.
We outgrow those who don’t value us the way we want to be valued.
The truth is we’re capable of giving someone we love the world but all we need is the reassurance that they won’t abuse it, that our hearts are secure with them, that they won’t turn into another lie or another mistake.
The truth is we outgrow those who don’t know how to love us and we save our love for those who fall as hard as we do and catch us if we fall faster.
We outgrow those who tell us everything we need to hear but show us nothing.
We outgrow those who don’t love us because it took us years to learn how to love ourselves and we’re not ready to ruin that by being with people who make us question who we are or if we’re worthy of their love.
The truth is we outgrow those who aren’t afraid of losing us because they’ll never truly understand who we are and what kind of love we’re seeking.
They’ll never truly see us the way we want to be seen.
I sincerely hope that you are with or around people who truly love you and value you for who you are.
With all my love, wishing you health, peace, safety and empowerment please stay safe Joanne Wellington. 🙏💙
NOTHING HAPPENS FOR NO REASON.
There are four Native American Indian Spirituality Laws.
There are four Native American Indian Spirituality Laws that say nothing happens for no reason in life. When you do understand this, it’s very easy to handle and you confidently look at what’s happening, thankful for what was there and happy for what’s going to happen.
The 1st law says:
‘′The person you meet is the right one.′′
That is, no one comes into our lives by accident, all the people around us who interact with us, stand for something, either to educate us or to help us in our situation.
The 2nd law says:
′′What happens is the only thing that can happen.′′
Nothing but absolutely nothing of what happens to us could have been different. Not even the most insignificant detail. There just isn’t ′′ If I had done it differently… It would have been different…” No, what happens is the only thing that can happen and needs to happen, so we can learn our lessons to get ahead. Everything, yes, every situation that happens to us in life is absolutely perfect, even when our spirit resists our ego and doesn’t want to accept it.
The 3rd law says:
′′Every moment when something starts is the right time.′′
Everything starts at the right time, not sooner or later. When we are ready for something new in our life, it’s already there to begin with.
The 4th law says:
′′What’s over is over.′′
It’s that simple. When something ends in our life, it serves our development. That’s why it’s better to let go and move forward, bestowed on the experiences that have now been gained.
I don’t think it’s a coincidence that you’re reading this here. If this text meets you today, it’s because you meet the conditions and understand that no rain drop anywhere in the world accidentally falls in the wrong place.
Let it go well…
Love with your whole being…
Being happy without end…
Every day is a happy, happy day.
Wishing you health, peace, safety and empowerment J.W🙏💙
WHY DO I HAVE A HARD TIME LETTING GO AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT
We’ve all been blessed with heart-breaking situations where people have wronged us or things haven’t gone the way we would like. Moving past them is difficult.
If you’ve ended a relationship, job or time in your life, it’s tough to let go and move on. Your subconscious, or monkey mind, wants to hold onto it like a dog that won’t let go of a bone. It wants to chew on it, gnaw and dig into the painful center of it.
Your logical mind gets sucked up into the drama of the monkey. You start to think of “what if’s” and “if only’s” that your monkey mind creates to add even more drama and negative feelings.
It would be so much easier to just let go and move on with your life, but the monkey won’t let you.
You try to let go. You move onto the next relationship or job. Just when things seem to be going well again, the old thoughts start to arise again, sabotaging things.
Why is it so hard to let go? Why is it so difficult to forgive and forget?
The Need to Be Right
Because you’ve been wronged and your monkey needs to prove itself right. Safety is the monkey mind’s number one priority, and being wrong is not safe.
The monkey will go out of its way to dream up all the reasons that you were right and the other person or aspects of the situation were wrong. It won’t let go of the need to be right.
But there you are, stuck in the middle with your monkey screeching in one ear and your wiser self whispering in the other, urging you to move on.
Letting go can be hard because it means letting go of aspects of your past – aspects of you. It also means letting go of your expectations of how things should have been.
Letting go hints of being wrong or allowing someone else to be right (when you know that what they did was wrong).
Unfortunately, it’s all in the past and there’s nothing you can do about it. The drama, the holding on, is in your own mind.
You are the only one with the power to let it go.
Rather than possibly admitting defeat and letting go, what if there were another way? A more mindful way that has nothing to do with right and wrong. What if, instead of letting go, you simply let things be.
Allow them to be as they are.
Let It Be
If you were wronged, it’s because you told yourself that you were, and then you make up a story about that.
One of the core tenets of mindfulness is to observe without judgment.
Making people or things right or wrong involves passing judgment on them.
Could you look at the situation differently or more objectively? Could you create a different story about it? What lessons could you then glean from the whole mess? How could it help you?
Tapping can help you to safely face your painful past and remove the emotional sting.
There’s a saying that the only way past fear is through it. All negative emotions are based in fear. An inability to let go is based in fear. If you weren’t afraid of letting go, you would have done it already.
People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar. ~Thich Nhat Hanh”
Depending on the level of severity of the situation you’re dealing with, you may be able to work through the emotions on your own. Here’s a process you can work through to loosen the grip of the “letting go” situation:
- Find a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. Give yourself at least 30 minutes (an hour would be better) as you won’t want to break the flow of the process.
- Sit in a relaxed position in a chair or on the floor.
- Close your eyes and take ten deep breaths to calm and centre yourself. Focus on the process of your breathing. Don’t force it to be anything. Just allow your body to breathe however it needs to.
- When you feel calm, think about the thing you want to let go of, the thing you want to release. Feel the feelings that come up. Don’t hold anything back.
- Focus on the strongest feeling. Exactly where do you feel it in your body? All emotions create homes in our bodies which create physical sensations (pain, heat, cold, numbness, tightness, etc.).
- Focus on the feeling in your body. Take time to understand exactly where it is and what the sensations are. Don’t try to make them go away as this will only cause them to persist. Objectively observe the sensation. Describe it in as much detail as possible. As you do this, the sensation may change and evolve. Stay with it.
- Once you’re clear on what and where the sensation is, ask it what message it’s trying to deliver. These types of messages come from your True Self and are there to help you grow and heal. The message may or may not be words. It may be colours, feelings, smells or any number of things. Be open to whatever arises. It may or may not be something that makes sense to you. Don’t judge it as good, bad, right, wrong, crazy or anything else. Simply be with it and allow the messages to come forward.
- When you feel that you’ve received as much of the message as you can, take ten deep breaths, focusing on the process and sensations of breathing.
- At this point, you can either sit with your experience or move to a different sensation in your body and repeat the last three steps.
- Open your eyes and start writing whatever comes up for you in a journal or notebook. Pen and paper work best for this process (no electronics). Keep writing for as long as you can without judging any of it. Neither you nor anything you write is wrong, crazy, stupid or any other negative judgment. Equally, neither you nor anything you write is right, brilliant or awesome. It simply is.
- In your journal, answer these questions: How can what I just experienced help me to move forward in my life? Can I see the difficult experience differently? Can I see myself differently? What can I do to minimize the emotional toll of similar experiences in the future and let them go as they occur? What would be a more supportive story I can tell myself about the situation?
- Repeat this process on a weekly basis until you feel that you can truly let go and move forward. I suggest weekly in order to give your subconscious time to work through what comes up in each session. You may have a revelation three days after a session that didn’t occur to you while you were originally journaling.
This process is like peeling an onion. Each session can bring you a little closer to your True Self and a better understanding of more supportive ways of handling future situations.
As new thoughts, feelings and emotions arise between sessions, write about them in your journal. During your journaling sessions, write until you feel that there’s nothing left to write about. Dig deep.
So often, it’s difficult to move past a feeling about a situation because you repeat a surface-level loop of thoughts and stories about it without moving any deeper. Journaling is a powerful tool that allows you to delve deeper and release what your monkey mind keeps pent up by its constant chatter.
Feeling the difficult feelings of something you want to let go of, examining how they manifest in your body and journaling about it all is a process of moving through and past your fears and creating a more empowered life.
The past is what it is and can’t be changed. You have the ability to create more empowering stories about it. Everyone lives in their own reality based on the stories they tell themselves about who and how they are.
It’s up to you to re-write your story.
What do you want to let go of? What patterns would you rather not repeat? What new narrative can you apply to the past to support your True Self?